"For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed.
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others."
Sam Levenson
As I reported in my last post, my cancer fight has suffered a setback. My cancer has grown in my breast and additional radiation/chemo has been recommended as a treatment plan. At this point I have ran out of my savings which has been used to supplement my growing medical expenses and now I am forced to look for additional sources of monetary support. For these reasons I am starting a gofund to help secure some financial security for my on going fight. My site can be found at www.gofundme.com/rb2qyx85. Any contributions will be greatly appreciated. I will continue to update my recovery and continue to prayer for myself and others faced with this fight of our lives. Thank you in advance for your support.
Thursday, August 27, 2015
Saturday, July 25, 2015
Setback
"Life is full of setbacks, Success is determined by the way you respond to them."
Dr. Phil
These last two weeks have been a series of ups and downs with my fight against cancer. I learned during this time that my cancer has spread in my breast, however,
has remained stable in the rest of my body. I am going through radiation treatment for the next month and a half. I have decided the postpone my blog until I feel well enough to write a note of encouragement. Thanks all the bloggers who support me and hope everyone is doing well. My prayers remain with those with or supporting cancer patients everywhere.
Dr. Phil
These last two weeks have been a series of ups and downs with my fight against cancer. I learned during this time that my cancer has spread in my breast, however,
has remained stable in the rest of my body. I am going through radiation treatment for the next month and a half. I have decided the postpone my blog until I feel well enough to write a note of encouragement. Thanks all the bloggers who support me and hope everyone is doing well. My prayers remain with those with or supporting cancer patients everywhere.
Friday, July 10, 2015
Heritage
"A concerted effort to preserve our heritage is a vital link to our cultural, educational, aesthetic, inspirational, and economic legaicies-all the things that quite literally makes us who we are." Steve Berry
The removal of the southern confederate battle flag from South Carolin's state grounds today was a very important step in establishing the true heritage of the southern pride. Starting two weeks ago a white main said that he killed the nine African-American churchgoers in a Charleston church was an attempt to start race wars in South Carolina. The young man took pictures of himself holding the confederate battle flag with a rifle to show white supremacy and posted them online.
Unfortunately this young man then proceeded to go to an AME church and shot nine bible churchgoers. This began the conversation about the flags symbol of slavery and racism.
Today with the support of most Southern Carolina's the flay was lowered permanently and will be displayed in a museum to reserve the heritage of the Confederate leaders and pay a tribute to those who fought for confederacy beliefs. This heritage is vital to our cultural as the United States of America united under one flag.
The removal of the southern confederate battle flag from South Carolin's state grounds today was a very important step in establishing the true heritage of the southern pride. Starting two weeks ago a white main said that he killed the nine African-American churchgoers in a Charleston church was an attempt to start race wars in South Carolina. The young man took pictures of himself holding the confederate battle flag with a rifle to show white supremacy and posted them online.
Unfortunately this young man then proceeded to go to an AME church and shot nine bible churchgoers. This began the conversation about the flags symbol of slavery and racism.
Today with the support of most Southern Carolina's the flay was lowered permanently and will be displayed in a museum to reserve the heritage of the Confederate leaders and pay a tribute to those who fought for confederacy beliefs. This heritage is vital to our cultural as the United States of America united under one flag.
Wednesday, July 8, 2015
Gun Control
" The rifle itself has no moral statue, since it has no will of it's own. Naturally, it may be used for evil men for evil purposes but there are more good men than evil,and while the latter cannot be persuaded to the path of righteousness by propaganda, they can certainly be corrected by good men with rifles."
Jeff Cooper, Art of the Rifle
Today while I was in the parking lot of Walmart, an older man pulled into the parking space next to me that had a over sized red sign in his back window, that read
"NRA Stand and Fight". The sign was so large that it covered the right back window. My first thought was that the sign must block his side view vision. Then I started to think why did he feel so compelled to advertise his views on gun rights and control.
I know our amendment's provide us with the rights of free speech but it does not have to infringe on other peoples rights to drive on our streets without making a hazard for other drivers on the road. I also think that out amendment right to bare arms also do not include the rights of those that have so much anger that the have to go out and shot innocent people, as was the case at Newtown Elementary School, the movie theater in Colorado, and numerous other fatalities that have occurred in the United States.
I think people have their rights to free speech but I think that the gun advocates should get out and also fight for control over who uses those guns and for what purpose. They should set the example for good men with rifles rather than accept evil use of rifles by evil people.
Jeff Cooper, Art of the Rifle
Today while I was in the parking lot of Walmart, an older man pulled into the parking space next to me that had a over sized red sign in his back window, that read
"NRA Stand and Fight". The sign was so large that it covered the right back window. My first thought was that the sign must block his side view vision. Then I started to think why did he feel so compelled to advertise his views on gun rights and control.
I know our amendment's provide us with the rights of free speech but it does not have to infringe on other peoples rights to drive on our streets without making a hazard for other drivers on the road. I also think that out amendment right to bare arms also do not include the rights of those that have so much anger that the have to go out and shot innocent people, as was the case at Newtown Elementary School, the movie theater in Colorado, and numerous other fatalities that have occurred in the United States.
I think people have their rights to free speech but I think that the gun advocates should get out and also fight for control over who uses those guns and for what purpose. They should set the example for good men with rifles rather than accept evil use of rifles by evil people.
Monday, July 6, 2015
The Success of Teamwork
"Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress.
Working together is success." Henry Ford
More than 22 million viewers watched yesterday as the American woman's soccer team successfully won the World Cup over Japan. Not being much of a soccer fan, I put the game on and became glued to the tv as the American women triumphed. I was very surprised at the strength and endurance of these women. For about 90 minutes these women ran, kicked, blocked and scored 5 goals that were hard earned. The women work together in unity to achieve the success. Given the 4th of July holiday we were observing it was wonderful to be a part of an American strong event. Congratulations to the team and coaches for a job well done!
Working together is success." Henry Ford
More than 22 million viewers watched yesterday as the American woman's soccer team successfully won the World Cup over Japan. Not being much of a soccer fan, I put the game on and became glued to the tv as the American women triumphed. I was very surprised at the strength and endurance of these women. For about 90 minutes these women ran, kicked, blocked and scored 5 goals that were hard earned. The women work together in unity to achieve the success. Given the 4th of July holiday we were observing it was wonderful to be a part of an American strong event. Congratulations to the team and coaches for a job well done!
Fireworks
"Happy people don't have the best of everything, they made the best of everything of everything." weheart.com
When I a read this simple quote on a local bulletin billboard, I thought how easy it was to find love in everything if you live in the moment.
When I a read this simple quote on a local bulletin billboard, I thought how easy it was to find love in everything if you live in the moment.
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
Tribute to Life
"Cancer is a word, not a sentence."
Yesterday I learned of the death of an acquaintance who died of ovarian cancer. She has been fighting the cancer for a little longer than me, 4 years. I had heard that she was dong well last summer but that the cancer had recurred this past winter. My first response when I heard of her passing was sadness and guilty, that I was doing good and that she didn't make it.
The death of this friend forced me to focus, to prioritize and learn what's important. I reassured myself that "Only by the grace of god go I". I pray for her family and hope they find peace in that she was a kind and loving person who was a good mother, daughter, wife and friend.
When I learn of the death of others I know from cancer, I remind myself that this event should make me stronger and make me want to fight harder against cancer. I realize that my mortality is at an optimal distance and I work at not letting it get so up close that it blurs everything else. As I have shared in other blogs, for me, gratitude is my best defense.
Yesterday I learned of the death of an acquaintance who died of ovarian cancer. She has been fighting the cancer for a little longer than me, 4 years. I had heard that she was dong well last summer but that the cancer had recurred this past winter. My first response when I heard of her passing was sadness and guilty, that I was doing good and that she didn't make it.
The death of this friend forced me to focus, to prioritize and learn what's important. I reassured myself that "Only by the grace of god go I". I pray for her family and hope they find peace in that she was a kind and loving person who was a good mother, daughter, wife and friend.
When I learn of the death of others I know from cancer, I remind myself that this event should make me stronger and make me want to fight harder against cancer. I realize that my mortality is at an optimal distance and I work at not letting it get so up close that it blurs everything else. As I have shared in other blogs, for me, gratitude is my best defense.
Tuesday, June 30, 2015
4th of July
"Warning: 4th of July remains an attractive target for active threats of violent extremist acts by Syrian based ISIS members." ABC News
When I read this news warning my first thought was fear and I wanted to call my son who lives and works in Philadelphia, and warn him to be careful. Then I had a second thought that this would only provoke anxiety and not be very helpful. Unfortunately, the people who believe in the ISIS cause have no fear and are willing to risk their lives for their religious belief. The irony of this is that I like many others are fighting cancer to save our lives while others have no respect for human life.
I concluded that like many Americans during this holiday weekend I need to be aware of the threat but not allow ISIS to win by living in fear.
I hope the threat of terrorism does not take away the importance of our right to celebrate our independence and freedom. I also hope that ISIS can be kept at a safe distance from the United States and be kept from causing more harm and fear to other parts of the world.
When I read this news warning my first thought was fear and I wanted to call my son who lives and works in Philadelphia, and warn him to be careful. Then I had a second thought that this would only provoke anxiety and not be very helpful. Unfortunately, the people who believe in the ISIS cause have no fear and are willing to risk their lives for their religious belief. The irony of this is that I like many others are fighting cancer to save our lives while others have no respect for human life.
I concluded that like many Americans during this holiday weekend I need to be aware of the threat but not allow ISIS to win by living in fear.
I hope the threat of terrorism does not take away the importance of our right to celebrate our independence and freedom. I also hope that ISIS can be kept at a safe distance from the United States and be kept from causing more harm and fear to other parts of the world.
Sunday, June 28, 2015
Guilt
"Guilt is cancer. Guilt will confine you, torture you, destroy you as an artist. It's a black wall. It's a thief." Dave Grohl
When I go to my weekly cancer support meetings I realize I tend to feel guilt over the fact that many of the other cancer patients with stage 3 or 4 cancer, like myself, are having more pain and suffering than me. I get very upset when I hear someone who was struggling with cancer does not survive. Frequently I feel why am I surviving when others are suffering so much. I feel sadness and feel an inability to enjoy life while others are suffering.
The advice I have been given by others is that survival guilt is common with many cancer patients and that some days can be worse than others and that it's ok to feel this guilt. I have been working on finding gratitude in my daily life by looking at the good and not about the pain and suffering of others. I also try to express small acts of kindness to others even if it is a simple hug or smile. I may need that same act of kindness myself one day. I hope if anyone reading this feels this kind of survival guilt that they look to gratitude in place of sadness and depression.
When I go to my weekly cancer support meetings I realize I tend to feel guilt over the fact that many of the other cancer patients with stage 3 or 4 cancer, like myself, are having more pain and suffering than me. I get very upset when I hear someone who was struggling with cancer does not survive. Frequently I feel why am I surviving when others are suffering so much. I feel sadness and feel an inability to enjoy life while others are suffering.
The advice I have been given by others is that survival guilt is common with many cancer patients and that some days can be worse than others and that it's ok to feel this guilt. I have been working on finding gratitude in my daily life by looking at the good and not about the pain and suffering of others. I also try to express small acts of kindness to others even if it is a simple hug or smile. I may need that same act of kindness myself one day. I hope if anyone reading this feels this kind of survival guilt that they look to gratitude in place of sadness and depression.
Monday, June 22, 2015
Cruel minds
"Murders are not monsters, they're men. And that's the most frightening thing about them." Alice Sebold, author "The Lovely Bones"
It was so disheartening to hear about the murders of the nine people at the AME church in Charleston, South Carolina. It hard to comprehend how the young man responsible for the crime, had his mind poisoned so severely that he could committed such a heinous act.
The only positive thing that I felt resulted from this crime was the reaction of the relatives of the victims who were able to find forgiveness in their hearts. It made me believe that not the whole world is a bad and cruel place. The relatives wanted to let the murderer know that he did not win.
My heart goes out to the families and friends of victims and that it must be terribly hard to find forgiveness. It also reminds me that a positive outlook can help ease the pain of this tragedy. More people in the world should learn from this act of forgiveness in order for hatred not to win.
It was so disheartening to hear about the murders of the nine people at the AME church in Charleston, South Carolina. It hard to comprehend how the young man responsible for the crime, had his mind poisoned so severely that he could committed such a heinous act.
The only positive thing that I felt resulted from this crime was the reaction of the relatives of the victims who were able to find forgiveness in their hearts. It made me believe that not the whole world is a bad and cruel place. The relatives wanted to let the murderer know that he did not win.
My heart goes out to the families and friends of victims and that it must be terribly hard to find forgiveness. It also reminds me that a positive outlook can help ease the pain of this tragedy. More people in the world should learn from this act of forgiveness in order for hatred not to win.
Friday, June 19, 2015
Milestones
"Life isn't a matter of milestones but moments."
Rose Kennedy
Yesterday the youngest of my nieces and nephews graduated from high school. This event got me thinking about all the milestones that we reach in life, like graduating from college, getting married, having children and so further. It occurred to me that all of these milestones are really only moments that accumulate into a person's life journey. It's just by putting on foot in front of the other.
This got me thinking of how my cancer journey is a similar journey. I realized that I should make a timeline of my cancer journey, marking all the good and bad things that have happened to me including test results and lab reports. In doing this I feel I would see more positive moments than negative ones. I feel it would help me on those days when I felt bad, scared, or sad. I could see that this is a journey like any other with it's ups and downs. It's just putting one foot in front of the other that I will get through to the other side.
Rose Kennedy
Yesterday the youngest of my nieces and nephews graduated from high school. This event got me thinking about all the milestones that we reach in life, like graduating from college, getting married, having children and so further. It occurred to me that all of these milestones are really only moments that accumulate into a person's life journey. It's just by putting on foot in front of the other.
This got me thinking of how my cancer journey is a similar journey. I realized that I should make a timeline of my cancer journey, marking all the good and bad things that have happened to me including test results and lab reports. In doing this I feel I would see more positive moments than negative ones. I feel it would help me on those days when I felt bad, scared, or sad. I could see that this is a journey like any other with it's ups and downs. It's just putting one foot in front of the other that I will get through to the other side.
Wednesday, June 17, 2015
Compassion
"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive. Dalai Lama
At my cancer support group this week there was a general discussion about how compassion helps improve positive emotions that help minimize chronic pain from cancer and other long term illnesses.
Compassion has been shown to open our minds and hearts. According to science studies by researcher Emma Speppla, compassion makes us happier, healthier and even more attractive. She further offers that goodwill, kindness and warmth towards others are very basic emotions to us. A simple smile or a simple hello to a stranger can improve your attitude and can promotes positive emotions.
The consensus of the discussion was that compassion when in the presence of love is a naturally occurring event. Compassion can be compromised, however, when evil is also present. Most people tend to show less compassion for others when they let evil prevail over love. For the average individual, most humans overlook the good in people when that person has been involved in what they perceive as an evil act.
After thinking about this, I have decided that I am also guilty of this lack of compassion for others before I known the whole story. I am going to work on acting out of love and compassion. I hope others that read this will do the same. The world can be a better place because of this act of compassion. I feel for me it will also aid in the healing process that my body is going through with cancer.
At my cancer support group this week there was a general discussion about how compassion helps improve positive emotions that help minimize chronic pain from cancer and other long term illnesses.
Compassion has been shown to open our minds and hearts. According to science studies by researcher Emma Speppla, compassion makes us happier, healthier and even more attractive. She further offers that goodwill, kindness and warmth towards others are very basic emotions to us. A simple smile or a simple hello to a stranger can improve your attitude and can promotes positive emotions.
The consensus of the discussion was that compassion when in the presence of love is a naturally occurring event. Compassion can be compromised, however, when evil is also present. Most people tend to show less compassion for others when they let evil prevail over love. For the average individual, most humans overlook the good in people when that person has been involved in what they perceive as an evil act.
After thinking about this, I have decided that I am also guilty of this lack of compassion for others before I known the whole story. I am going to work on acting out of love and compassion. I hope others that read this will do the same. The world can be a better place because of this act of compassion. I feel for me it will also aid in the healing process that my body is going through with cancer.
Tuesday, June 16, 2015
WIN!
"I positive result is a score in the win column."
Today I got great news from my doctor. My PET scan showed no new growth in my cancer. I still have an active cancer in my right breast and cancer in several locations of my bones, but there has been no change in six months. My doctor felt that it was a win that the cancer is not spreading. I still have stage four cancer but it is stable. He feels that the new treatment that includes my fasdex injection are doing it's job. I may still have to go through additional radiation treatment but it is much better than the alternative.
I firmly agree that a positive mind set helps reduce stress and keep me in the path to survival. For anyone dealing with cancer I offer you hope and strength that you can live with cancer at any stage. My prayers and thoughts are with others in the fight of their life, that they find courage and strength in the success's of other cancer patients.
Today I got great news from my doctor. My PET scan showed no new growth in my cancer. I still have an active cancer in my right breast and cancer in several locations of my bones, but there has been no change in six months. My doctor felt that it was a win that the cancer is not spreading. I still have stage four cancer but it is stable. He feels that the new treatment that includes my fasdex injection are doing it's job. I may still have to go through additional radiation treatment but it is much better than the alternative.
I firmly agree that a positive mind set helps reduce stress and keep me in the path to survival. For anyone dealing with cancer I offer you hope and strength that you can live with cancer at any stage. My prayers and thoughts are with others in the fight of their life, that they find courage and strength in the success's of other cancer patients.
Monday, June 15, 2015
Rainy Days and Mondays
"Talkin' to myself and feelin' old
Sometimes I'd like to quit, nothin' ever seems to fit
Hangin' around, nothin' to do but frown
Rainy days and Mondays always get me down....."
Song Lyrics from "Rainy Days and Sundays", by the Carpenters
Well it's a very rainy Monday here in the northeast. That song by the Carpenters always makes me smile because it seems so true. Today is a great day to make a cup of tea and snuggle up in a blanket and a good book.
We really need the rain up here because we are experiencing a slight draught. The rain is also a good sight because I planted my tomato plants and herbs outside this weekend. These events remind me that there is a silver lining in most unpleasant things in life and that when something catches my attention, there is usually a lesson that I need to learn. I am going to take this rainy day as a chance to slow down and regroup waiting for the sunshine to reappear!
Sometimes I'd like to quit, nothin' ever seems to fit
Hangin' around, nothin' to do but frown
Rainy days and Mondays always get me down....."
Song Lyrics from "Rainy Days and Sundays", by the Carpenters
Well it's a very rainy Monday here in the northeast. That song by the Carpenters always makes me smile because it seems so true. Today is a great day to make a cup of tea and snuggle up in a blanket and a good book.
We really need the rain up here because we are experiencing a slight draught. The rain is also a good sight because I planted my tomato plants and herbs outside this weekend. These events remind me that there is a silver lining in most unpleasant things in life and that when something catches my attention, there is usually a lesson that I need to learn. I am going to take this rainy day as a chance to slow down and regroup waiting for the sunshine to reappear!
Sunday, June 14, 2015
Butterfly
As we approach the beginning of summer, I would like to share this "Advise From a Butterfly."
Let your true colors show
Get out of your cocoon
Take yourself lightly
Look for the sweetness in life
Take time to smell the flowers
Catch a breeze
We can't all be monarchs!
Llan Shamir
Wishing everyone a great week and Happy Flag Day!
Let your true colors show
Get out of your cocoon
Take yourself lightly
Look for the sweetness in life
Take time to smell the flowers
Catch a breeze
We can't all be monarchs!
Llan Shamir
Wishing everyone a great week and Happy Flag Day!
Thursday, June 11, 2015
Timeout
"Whenever we feel overwhelmed by the amount that needs to be done, or caught up in a moment of anger or worry, we need to take time out for peace of mind."
Robert Alan Silverstein
Timeout is a good thing. About 15 years ago I owned a 60 child day care center and it was our daily practice of using a timeout chair for children fighting fear, anger or any other emotion, in order for the child to regain a sense of quiet and peace. Most times it was all the child needed to regroup and start over. This simple lesson has helped me achieve wonderful results when dealing with cancer.
I try to live my daily life in a way that keeps me from getting carried away with worries, fear, or anger. I do that by trying to meditate or a simple timeout. This Saturday I am scheduled to get my six month PET scan, which traces signs of new cancer in my body. I tend to get very anxiety when I get this test taken. This is the time I need to stop for a moment, take a deep breath, count to ten and pause, refocus and restore balance. For others dealing with the daily fears and worries of cancer, take a ten minute time out. I hope this will help you like it helps me.
Robert Alan Silverstein
Timeout is a good thing. About 15 years ago I owned a 60 child day care center and it was our daily practice of using a timeout chair for children fighting fear, anger or any other emotion, in order for the child to regain a sense of quiet and peace. Most times it was all the child needed to regroup and start over. This simple lesson has helped me achieve wonderful results when dealing with cancer.
I try to live my daily life in a way that keeps me from getting carried away with worries, fear, or anger. I do that by trying to meditate or a simple timeout. This Saturday I am scheduled to get my six month PET scan, which traces signs of new cancer in my body. I tend to get very anxiety when I get this test taken. This is the time I need to stop for a moment, take a deep breath, count to ten and pause, refocus and restore balance. For others dealing with the daily fears and worries of cancer, take a ten minute time out. I hope this will help you like it helps me.
Wednesday, June 10, 2015
Life is good
I saw this letter today and thought is was worth sharing.
Dear God,
I did not sleep well last night,
but I did wake up.
My muscles are sore,
but they work.
My wallet is not full,
but my belly is.
I may not have all I want,
but I have all I need.
My life is not perfect,
but my life is Good.
Thank you! It is time to be grateful and count my blessings.
Dear God,
I did not sleep well last night,
but I did wake up.
My muscles are sore,
but they work.
My wallet is not full,
but my belly is.
I may not have all I want,
but I have all I need.
My life is not perfect,
but my life is Good.
Thank you! It is time to be grateful and count my blessings.
Monday, June 8, 2015
Death and Love
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."
Richard Puz, From an Irish headstone
This weekend I watched the funeral procession for Beau Biden, the son of Vice President Joe Biden, who died of brain cancer last week. As I watched I realized that Beau had been snatched from life too soon and that I was feeling so much pain in the heart of his family and friends which little comfort could be offered to avoid the hurt. It also made me face my own mortality and accept the knowledge that my time on earth is so brief. With this fact I also realized that I needed to develop a passion for being alive. I began to accept that I had an unconscious level of frantic fear of death. Given the fact that I was suffering with stage four cancer, I know my fears were very real and that I needed to accept that I too was a leaf that will fall off the tree of life.
It does help to know that I am not alone in this fear and that no one knows how time each person has. I know that my fear is based on my thoughts that I will be forgotten as will all the people a love and care for. I remind myself the memories I create in this life will make an everlasting impression that can't be forgotten.
Today I offer this challenge to draw from my faith that the afterlife promised by Christ will make the thoughts and fear of death lose it's power. I also challenge myself to live each moment like it is my last moment on earth and to be grateful for all that I have.
Richard Puz, From an Irish headstone
This weekend I watched the funeral procession for Beau Biden, the son of Vice President Joe Biden, who died of brain cancer last week. As I watched I realized that Beau had been snatched from life too soon and that I was feeling so much pain in the heart of his family and friends which little comfort could be offered to avoid the hurt. It also made me face my own mortality and accept the knowledge that my time on earth is so brief. With this fact I also realized that I needed to develop a passion for being alive. I began to accept that I had an unconscious level of frantic fear of death. Given the fact that I was suffering with stage four cancer, I know my fears were very real and that I needed to accept that I too was a leaf that will fall off the tree of life.
It does help to know that I am not alone in this fear and that no one knows how time each person has. I know that my fear is based on my thoughts that I will be forgotten as will all the people a love and care for. I remind myself the memories I create in this life will make an everlasting impression that can't be forgotten.
Today I offer this challenge to draw from my faith that the afterlife promised by Christ will make the thoughts and fear of death lose it's power. I also challenge myself to live each moment like it is my last moment on earth and to be grateful for all that I have.
Friday, June 5, 2015
Fear
"If you live in fear of the future because of what happened in your past, you'll end up losing what you have in the present." Unknown
I like most people let fear roam my mind at will. In India there is a metaphor comparing fear in the mind to a wild elephant, and calming the fear is said to be like tying the elephant to a stake. I have found that meditating helps me to calm my mind to accept fear and transcend it to a higher awareness that is beyond the impulsive tendency of the mind.
I first sit in a calm, quite area where there are few outside stimulus. I start by thinking of a quite thought like the waves of the ocean, some people find music to be helpful. I prefer just the quite sound of stillness. I remind myself to give up the noise in my head and focus on the channel of peace that I want to obtain. Slowly tell you mind that all is well in the world and that there is nothing to fear, I am safe. Continue this mantra for several minutes while you concentrate on your breathing. For me ten minutes of this stillness where I escape the madness of the world, allows me to give up control.
I start everyday by mediating and I have found that I have less panic or fear attacks. There are many books and tapes which are available to help you start and maintain a meditation routine. I strongly recommend these methods to help you get started.
I like most people let fear roam my mind at will. In India there is a metaphor comparing fear in the mind to a wild elephant, and calming the fear is said to be like tying the elephant to a stake. I have found that meditating helps me to calm my mind to accept fear and transcend it to a higher awareness that is beyond the impulsive tendency of the mind.
I first sit in a calm, quite area where there are few outside stimulus. I start by thinking of a quite thought like the waves of the ocean, some people find music to be helpful. I prefer just the quite sound of stillness. I remind myself to give up the noise in my head and focus on the channel of peace that I want to obtain. Slowly tell you mind that all is well in the world and that there is nothing to fear, I am safe. Continue this mantra for several minutes while you concentrate on your breathing. For me ten minutes of this stillness where I escape the madness of the world, allows me to give up control.
I start everyday by mediating and I have found that I have less panic or fear attacks. There are many books and tapes which are available to help you start and maintain a meditation routine. I strongly recommend these methods to help you get started.
Wednesday, June 3, 2015
Courage
"I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It's when you know you're licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what."
Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird
I was very upset when I read that Caitlyn Jenner was to be Honored with the Arthur Ashe Courage Award at the 2015 ESPYS July 15, 2015 ceremony. 40 years ago Bruce Jenner's Olympic success came as a result of both mind and body strength as the world's greatest athlete. People felt at the time he showed alot of courage. Coming out transgender took a different kind of courage. In my opinion it was more of a personal advantage of courage to stand for what he thought was in his best interest. This action has also caused hurt and pain to his immediate family which he could have spared by not making it so public.
Caitlyn Jenner was picked ahead of Lauren Hill and Noah Galloway. Lauren Hill was a college basketball player who raised money to fight cancer before dying from cancer just recently. She worked endlessly to raise money to help people with cancer and for the cause, while continuing her college basketball career.
Noah Galloway lost most of his left arm and leg as a solider in Iraq, then went on to become a distance runner, personal trainer, motivational speaker and recent 3rd finisher on "Dancing With the Stars". Both of these latter candidate did these acts of courage without complete personal gain.
I don't under estimate the courage that Caitlyn Jenner went through to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I also feel Laureen and Noah's fight may have been less selfish.
Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird
I was very upset when I read that Caitlyn Jenner was to be Honored with the Arthur Ashe Courage Award at the 2015 ESPYS July 15, 2015 ceremony. 40 years ago Bruce Jenner's Olympic success came as a result of both mind and body strength as the world's greatest athlete. People felt at the time he showed alot of courage. Coming out transgender took a different kind of courage. In my opinion it was more of a personal advantage of courage to stand for what he thought was in his best interest. This action has also caused hurt and pain to his immediate family which he could have spared by not making it so public.
Caitlyn Jenner was picked ahead of Lauren Hill and Noah Galloway. Lauren Hill was a college basketball player who raised money to fight cancer before dying from cancer just recently. She worked endlessly to raise money to help people with cancer and for the cause, while continuing her college basketball career.
Noah Galloway lost most of his left arm and leg as a solider in Iraq, then went on to become a distance runner, personal trainer, motivational speaker and recent 3rd finisher on "Dancing With the Stars". Both of these latter candidate did these acts of courage without complete personal gain.
I don't under estimate the courage that Caitlyn Jenner went through to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I also feel Laureen and Noah's fight may have been less selfish.
Tuesday, June 2, 2015
Love
"You know, folks, my dad used to have an expression. He'd say, 'A father knows he's a success when he turns at his son or daughter and knows that they turned out better than he did. 'I'm a success; I'm a hell of a success; Beau I love you. I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud of the son you've become; I'm proud so proud of the father you are"
Joe Biden at the 2008 Democratic National Convention.
When I heard about the death of Beau Biden,46, the son of Vice President Joe Biden, I teared up. I can not even imagine the hurt and suffering of having to bury your own child. The hardest point is that Joe Biden buried his first wife and daughter from a car accident when he was 30 years old. My heart bleeds for the pain he and his family must feel.
Beau Biden, died of brain cancer, which he was dealing with since 2013. In 2014, he was told after surgery to remove a brain tumor, that he was cancer free and then to have the cancer reappear this year. It makes me wonder how much you can believe about a doctors opinion about the state of your cancer and also how strong the cancer cells really are. As I have shared, I am dealing with stage four cancer that has spread to my bones. I receive hormone treatment now after receiving chemo and radiation three years ago. I worry all the time how much the cancer is growing and try to keep a positive attitude about my future. I get monthly checks on my cancer numbers and have had good news most of the time. I have to remind myself everyday that I only have today and to make the best of my life.
This news of Beau Biden brings reality to my world of dealing with cancer. I woke up this morning and was thankful for another day and decided to make it a great day! Again my sympathy goes out to the Biden family and pray they receive the strength to get through this very hard time.
Joe Biden at the 2008 Democratic National Convention.
When I heard about the death of Beau Biden,46, the son of Vice President Joe Biden, I teared up. I can not even imagine the hurt and suffering of having to bury your own child. The hardest point is that Joe Biden buried his first wife and daughter from a car accident when he was 30 years old. My heart bleeds for the pain he and his family must feel.
Beau Biden, died of brain cancer, which he was dealing with since 2013. In 2014, he was told after surgery to remove a brain tumor, that he was cancer free and then to have the cancer reappear this year. It makes me wonder how much you can believe about a doctors opinion about the state of your cancer and also how strong the cancer cells really are. As I have shared, I am dealing with stage four cancer that has spread to my bones. I receive hormone treatment now after receiving chemo and radiation three years ago. I worry all the time how much the cancer is growing and try to keep a positive attitude about my future. I get monthly checks on my cancer numbers and have had good news most of the time. I have to remind myself everyday that I only have today and to make the best of my life.
This news of Beau Biden brings reality to my world of dealing with cancer. I woke up this morning and was thankful for another day and decided to make it a great day! Again my sympathy goes out to the Biden family and pray they receive the strength to get through this very hard time.
Monday, June 1, 2015
Injuries
"Write your injuries in dust, your benefits in marble." Benjamin Franklin
"The more injuries you get, the smarter you get." Mikhail Bryshnikov
When I heard about the broken femur that John Kerry, Sec. of the State, had sustained in a bike riding event this weekend, I immediately remembered two years ago having the same injury while I was weeding my flower garden.
My fall that had caused the injury was a result of the stage four breast cancer that I had just learned I had. Unfortunately the cancer had spread to my bones and I had a tumor on my femur bone that had eaten away a large percentage of the bone. At the time I had received chemo and radiation for the tumor but was unaware of the extent of the damage to the bone. When I fell it was just hard enough to shatter the bone. Luckily a neighbor heard me yell and dialed 911 immediately. I was airlifted to the nearest hospital for emergency surgery.
When I heard about Sec. of State Kerry's injuries my heart went out to him because I remember the hard six months of pain and suffering to rehab my leg until I was able to stand and put a little weight on it. It was a long road of patience and endurance to recover.
I still have the cancer but the bone was removed and replaced with a rod, bolts and plates. Today I still walk with a slight limp but it would have been worse if the cancer had continued to grow and could have caused me to lose my leg all together. This chapter in my life may have been difficult but what I am ever so grateful for is the silver lining in the cloud! Best Wishes for a speedy recovery to John Kerry
"The more injuries you get, the smarter you get." Mikhail Bryshnikov
When I heard about the broken femur that John Kerry, Sec. of the State, had sustained in a bike riding event this weekend, I immediately remembered two years ago having the same injury while I was weeding my flower garden.
My fall that had caused the injury was a result of the stage four breast cancer that I had just learned I had. Unfortunately the cancer had spread to my bones and I had a tumor on my femur bone that had eaten away a large percentage of the bone. At the time I had received chemo and radiation for the tumor but was unaware of the extent of the damage to the bone. When I fell it was just hard enough to shatter the bone. Luckily a neighbor heard me yell and dialed 911 immediately. I was airlifted to the nearest hospital for emergency surgery.
When I heard about Sec. of State Kerry's injuries my heart went out to him because I remember the hard six months of pain and suffering to rehab my leg until I was able to stand and put a little weight on it. It was a long road of patience and endurance to recover.
I still have the cancer but the bone was removed and replaced with a rod, bolts and plates. Today I still walk with a slight limp but it would have been worse if the cancer had continued to grow and could have caused me to lose my leg all together. This chapter in my life may have been difficult but what I am ever so grateful for is the silver lining in the cloud! Best Wishes for a speedy recovery to John Kerry
Sunday, May 31, 2015
Dry Mouth
"Some chemo and cancer medications can damage your saliva glands."
Julie Lanford, RD, Wellness director for Cancer Services Inc.
From the time I had my first chemo treatment to present hormone treatment and pain medicines, I have experienced moderate to severe Dry Mouth. Symptoms of Dry Mouth are linked to a reduction in salvia flow, which is a directly cause by taking more prescription medicines.
My doctor has advised me of the following tips to deal with Dry Mouth:
1. Sip water often to help keep your mouth moist. But avoid sugary, acidic, or caffeinated drinks.
2. Drink water or milk with meals help with chewing and swallowing.
3. Try sleeping in a room with a humidifer to ease dry mouth symptoms.
4. Rinse your mouth before bedtime. Try this mouth rinse. Mix until dissollved; 1 tsp baking soda and 3/4 tsp salt in 1 qt. water. Swish and spit. Another rinse at bedtime is to swish some olive oil and then spit. This will coat your mouth so it doesn't dry out.
All of these tips are meant reduce or help ease the symptoms of Dry Mouth.
If you or anyone use know is suffering with Dry Mouth, I hope these tips are helpful.
Julie Lanford, RD, Wellness director for Cancer Services Inc.
From the time I had my first chemo treatment to present hormone treatment and pain medicines, I have experienced moderate to severe Dry Mouth. Symptoms of Dry Mouth are linked to a reduction in salvia flow, which is a directly cause by taking more prescription medicines.
My doctor has advised me of the following tips to deal with Dry Mouth:
1. Sip water often to help keep your mouth moist. But avoid sugary, acidic, or caffeinated drinks.
2. Drink water or milk with meals help with chewing and swallowing.
3. Try sleeping in a room with a humidifer to ease dry mouth symptoms.
4. Rinse your mouth before bedtime. Try this mouth rinse. Mix until dissollved; 1 tsp baking soda and 3/4 tsp salt in 1 qt. water. Swish and spit. Another rinse at bedtime is to swish some olive oil and then spit. This will coat your mouth so it doesn't dry out.
All of these tips are meant reduce or help ease the symptoms of Dry Mouth.
If you or anyone use know is suffering with Dry Mouth, I hope these tips are helpful.
Friday, May 29, 2015
Awareness
"Whatever is stored in darkness becomes distorted." Deepak Chopra
Awareness, like fresh water is meant to flow, and when it can't, it turn stagnant. Yesterday when I went to my cancer check-up appointment, I was feeling a lot of anxiety about my results because I had not been feeling very good this past week. This anxiety must have been larger than life because my blood pressure was higher than usual and my doctor felt the tension when he was talking to him. I explained that I had been been very tired and lacked energy. To my surprise my doctor explained to me that cancer can work on your subconscious when you're worried. He assured me that what ever the results were there were plenty of options. By the time I left the doctors office I was beginning to feel better with more energy. The results of my cancer test would not be available for a day or two I decided that I needed to use breathing and meditation techniques to calm me down.
When I got home I listened to some relaxing music and completed my breathing routine. Within a half an hour I was feeling better and more optimistic.
This morning when I got up my doctor called me to tell me cancer numbers had stayed the same but my calcium levels were down. He felt that may have caused me to feel more fatigue and added more calcium tablets to my diet. This simple phone call eased my anxiety and lifted my spirit!
Awareness, like fresh water is meant to flow, and when it can't, it turn stagnant. Yesterday when I went to my cancer check-up appointment, I was feeling a lot of anxiety about my results because I had not been feeling very good this past week. This anxiety must have been larger than life because my blood pressure was higher than usual and my doctor felt the tension when he was talking to him. I explained that I had been been very tired and lacked energy. To my surprise my doctor explained to me that cancer can work on your subconscious when you're worried. He assured me that what ever the results were there were plenty of options. By the time I left the doctors office I was beginning to feel better with more energy. The results of my cancer test would not be available for a day or two I decided that I needed to use breathing and meditation techniques to calm me down.
When I got home I listened to some relaxing music and completed my breathing routine. Within a half an hour I was feeling better and more optimistic.
This morning when I got up my doctor called me to tell me cancer numbers had stayed the same but my calcium levels were down. He felt that may have caused me to feel more fatigue and added more calcium tablets to my diet. This simple phone call eased my anxiety and lifted my spirit!
Thursday, May 28, 2015
Dancing in the Rain
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain."
Unknown
For the last month I have been dealing with a few little bumps in the road and have not been blogging because I have procrastinating about sitting down and writing my thoughts. It seems that as days go by it gets harder to start blogging again. Today I woke up and told myself that people may or may not enjoy reading my blogs but that I had to jump back into to get restarted.
The weather has now changed from all the snow to beautiful sunshine. It seems like only a few days ago we had 30 inches of snow on the ground now the grass is growing over the curb and is begging to be mowed.
I love spring and really enjoy watching the trees and flowers blooming. I started a herb garden and I'm enjoying the basil, thyme, sage and parsley that is growing profusely in my containers. I just added a pot of chocolate mint to my collection and was very pleased with the flavor I infused in my selter water. Lemon balm is also another herb that is easy to grow and can be infused in selter water.
Thank you to my followers who voice concern about my absence on my blog. All is well with my cancer and I hope all is well with all of my followers and that you continue to communicate with me.
Saturday, May 2, 2015
Friends of the Library
"Good friends, good books, and a sleepy conscience; this is the ideal life."
Mark Twain
Today I went to our local "Friends of the Library" annual book sale. Friends of Libraries are available in most township and county libraries. They are non-profit charitable groups formed to support libraries in communities for the purpose of fundraising, public awareness campaigns and literary program.
I love these book sales because it gives me an opportunity to donate many books that I have finished and would like to share with other readers. If there is a book I especially like, I try to write a little short note on a book markers that highlights the things I enjoyed most about the book. It also gives me a chance to buy books, cds and music choices that I have been looking for at a fraction of the original cost. Most books and other items for sale are gently used in good condition. I love these sales also because you can meet others in your community that share your love for literacy. Its a great chance to also begin looking for birthday, Christmas and other gift to give throughout the year to family and friends!
You can find advertisments for these sales in most local papers and on line. Happy reading!
Mark Twain
Today I went to our local "Friends of the Library" annual book sale. Friends of Libraries are available in most township and county libraries. They are non-profit charitable groups formed to support libraries in communities for the purpose of fundraising, public awareness campaigns and literary program.
I love these book sales because it gives me an opportunity to donate many books that I have finished and would like to share with other readers. If there is a book I especially like, I try to write a little short note on a book markers that highlights the things I enjoyed most about the book. It also gives me a chance to buy books, cds and music choices that I have been looking for at a fraction of the original cost. Most books and other items for sale are gently used in good condition. I love these sales also because you can meet others in your community that share your love for literacy. Its a great chance to also begin looking for birthday, Christmas and other gift to give throughout the year to family and friends!
You can find advertisments for these sales in most local papers and on line. Happy reading!
Wednesday, April 29, 2015
Anger
"Don't hold on to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love." Leo F. Buscaglia, Inspirational Author
With all the turmoil that they are facing in Baltimore, it's hard to let go of the anger, hurt and pain the people of this city are fighting against. I am sure many of the people of Baltimore feel trapped in fear that uncertainty brings.
I lived in Baltimore for nine months when I was in a co-op educational program in college. My daughter graduated college in Baltimore two years ago so I feel I have an enlightened understanding of the people and city of Baltimore. They are a very diverse culture that prides itself on the arts, theater, and history. I am sure that the darkness of the riots make many of the problems the people are feeling become distorted. Hatred and anxiety loom larger than life and disorganized energy is a result, like the looting that occurred at the CVS pharmacy.
I believe that the people of Baltimore will come through this turmoil and the pain will lessen and eventually heal. It seems only reasonable that panic attacks will be felt by most citizens and the energy has to be bring into the light to diffuse it. I also feel that the mother running after her teenage son in the streets, urging him to go home will help pay attention to the need of guidance by the adults in the city who should be setting an example.
There is no fixed answer for the problems of Baltimore and other cities like it but I hope and pray that a response is found that helps heal through insight, compassion, patience and love from others.
With all the turmoil that they are facing in Baltimore, it's hard to let go of the anger, hurt and pain the people of this city are fighting against. I am sure many of the people of Baltimore feel trapped in fear that uncertainty brings.
I lived in Baltimore for nine months when I was in a co-op educational program in college. My daughter graduated college in Baltimore two years ago so I feel I have an enlightened understanding of the people and city of Baltimore. They are a very diverse culture that prides itself on the arts, theater, and history. I am sure that the darkness of the riots make many of the problems the people are feeling become distorted. Hatred and anxiety loom larger than life and disorganized energy is a result, like the looting that occurred at the CVS pharmacy.
I believe that the people of Baltimore will come through this turmoil and the pain will lessen and eventually heal. It seems only reasonable that panic attacks will be felt by most citizens and the energy has to be bring into the light to diffuse it. I also feel that the mother running after her teenage son in the streets, urging him to go home will help pay attention to the need of guidance by the adults in the city who should be setting an example.
There is no fixed answer for the problems of Baltimore and other cities like it but I hope and pray that a response is found that helps heal through insight, compassion, patience and love from others.
Tuesday, April 28, 2015
Morning Routine
"Thinking about creating my future starts when I wake up every morning...Everyday I find something creative to do with my life to make it worthwhile."
Miles Davis, Jazz Musician
When I wake-up each morning I choose to have a good day or a bad day. I realize that to have a good life, I must fill it with good days. Good days to me happen when I accomplish my most important tasks for the day. Bad days are those that leave me feeling bad because I fail to do anything to advance my most important tasks. The first thing I do in the morning is write down and organize my personal priorities, doing the most important tasks first.
Studies have shown that eighty percent of people do exactly the opposite. They organize their days around urgency's and emergencies. They tend to take care of last minute issues that should have been dealt with earlier or help others achieve their goals while ignoring their own. I find this approach leaves me feeling frustrated and irritable.
Doing first things first is a very simple discipline. I find it to be a major power and has changed my life immensely. I also find it's a fast and easy way to turn around my life when I am not happy with the way it is going so far.
These are the rules I follow: 1. I get up early and write a list of the the important tasks I want to accomplish. 2. I have breakfast, next I dress and do a short stretching exercise and a meditation session of 15-20 minutes. 3. I begin to work on my list of important tasks, crossing each one off as I accomplish it. 4. I continue down my list, taking short breaks in between to allow myself down time. 5. I make time for lunch and run errands as needed. By the end of the day I review my list and reward myself for all the items I accomplished. (I enjoy a cup of tea and a sweet treat most times) I make a list for tomorrow of tasks that still need to be accomplished.
I try to do this five days a week and spend the weekend doing fun things! I feel happier most of the time and feel I have a good life! Try it and see if it doesn't help.
Miles Davis, Jazz Musician
When I wake-up each morning I choose to have a good day or a bad day. I realize that to have a good life, I must fill it with good days. Good days to me happen when I accomplish my most important tasks for the day. Bad days are those that leave me feeling bad because I fail to do anything to advance my most important tasks. The first thing I do in the morning is write down and organize my personal priorities, doing the most important tasks first.
Studies have shown that eighty percent of people do exactly the opposite. They organize their days around urgency's and emergencies. They tend to take care of last minute issues that should have been dealt with earlier or help others achieve their goals while ignoring their own. I find this approach leaves me feeling frustrated and irritable.
Doing first things first is a very simple discipline. I find it to be a major power and has changed my life immensely. I also find it's a fast and easy way to turn around my life when I am not happy with the way it is going so far.
These are the rules I follow: 1. I get up early and write a list of the the important tasks I want to accomplish. 2. I have breakfast, next I dress and do a short stretching exercise and a meditation session of 15-20 minutes. 3. I begin to work on my list of important tasks, crossing each one off as I accomplish it. 4. I continue down my list, taking short breaks in between to allow myself down time. 5. I make time for lunch and run errands as needed. By the end of the day I review my list and reward myself for all the items I accomplished. (I enjoy a cup of tea and a sweet treat most times) I make a list for tomorrow of tasks that still need to be accomplished.
I try to do this five days a week and spend the weekend doing fun things! I feel happier most of the time and feel I have a good life! Try it and see if it doesn't help.
Saturday, April 25, 2015
Daffodil Festival
"If one daffodil is worth a thousand pleasures, then one is too few."
William Wordsworth
Today my husband and I traveled to Meridan, Connecticut for "New Englands Most Beauitful Daffodil Festival". There were an estimated 600,001 daffodils blooming through out a 1800 acre park in Meridan, Connecticut, with 61 different varities. The display of daffidols are just amazing. Most people said it was the best display in years. It seems that in recent years the blooms were premature or had already bloomed at the time of the festival. There were several hundred of art/craft vendors along with Musical Entertainment. The festival runs both Saturday and Sunday from 10 am to 5 pm.
The weather was just right for an outside event and the ground was dry for a stroll thru the daffidols and the festival. When I was a child I looked for the blooming of the daffidols as a sign that spring was finally here. I felt that same childlike feeling today seeing the acres and acres of daffidols.
If you are out for drive, look for the daffidols, they are blooming freely along most country roads!
William Wordsworth
Today my husband and I traveled to Meridan, Connecticut for "New Englands Most Beauitful Daffodil Festival". There were an estimated 600,001 daffodils blooming through out a 1800 acre park in Meridan, Connecticut, with 61 different varities. The display of daffidols are just amazing. Most people said it was the best display in years. It seems that in recent years the blooms were premature or had already bloomed at the time of the festival. There were several hundred of art/craft vendors along with Musical Entertainment. The festival runs both Saturday and Sunday from 10 am to 5 pm.
The weather was just right for an outside event and the ground was dry for a stroll thru the daffidols and the festival. When I was a child I looked for the blooming of the daffidols as a sign that spring was finally here. I felt that same childlike feeling today seeing the acres and acres of daffidols.
If you are out for drive, look for the daffidols, they are blooming freely along most country roads!
Friday, April 24, 2015
Vacation
"Every person needs to take one day away....Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any of us....Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us." Maya Angelou
This past week I did not blog because I felt like I needed a vacation from the cares of the world. During this week I did some self indulging in me, like getting a mani/pedi on my fingers and feet, a long over due hair cut, a wonderful birthday visit with my daughter and enjoying a mindless romance novel. I apologize to anyone who checked my blog and saw no current blogs but it was time I needed and feel everyone deserves every now and then. I urge anyone who hasn't taken a well deserved time out, to TAKE IT NOW! It really revitalized me.
This past week I did not blog because I felt like I needed a vacation from the cares of the world. During this week I did some self indulging in me, like getting a mani/pedi on my fingers and feet, a long over due hair cut, a wonderful birthday visit with my daughter and enjoying a mindless romance novel. I apologize to anyone who checked my blog and saw no current blogs but it was time I needed and feel everyone deserves every now and then. I urge anyone who hasn't taken a well deserved time out, to TAKE IT NOW! It really revitalized me.
Thursday, April 16, 2015
Life and Death
"On the night of the murder I was at home, alseep. The characters in my dream can vouch for me."
Here in New England all the talk is about the conviction of Aaron Hernandez, the ex-Partiot tight end. It is so hard to understand how an individual would ruin a career and life the way Hernandez did. I like others with cancer or other life threatening diseases are fight to live, Hernandez have given up a life only most would dream of,
He had a super bowl ring, super bowl winning catch, 47 million dollar contract and a child on the way, to give it all up to prove that he was a gangster. He took a life and in effect took his own life. It is so hard to believe that he did not value a great future for a life in prison. The Boston Globe showed an image of his prison home for life within one mile of Foxboro the home of the Patriots. People have said that from the recreation pod of the prison, you can heard the cheers of the crowd at the stadium. It's a life of pain and suffering that he choice over joy and love. I am not sorry for his choices, I only wish I was given a choice between life and death, for this I feel sorry for his family that he choice over them and the family of the victim that will never see him again. Life is not fair but Hernandez got what he deserves.
I, like many others are fighting to live, shame on Hernandez for his callous regard for life.
Here in New England all the talk is about the conviction of Aaron Hernandez, the ex-Partiot tight end. It is so hard to understand how an individual would ruin a career and life the way Hernandez did. I like others with cancer or other life threatening diseases are fight to live, Hernandez have given up a life only most would dream of,
He had a super bowl ring, super bowl winning catch, 47 million dollar contract and a child on the way, to give it all up to prove that he was a gangster. He took a life and in effect took his own life. It is so hard to believe that he did not value a great future for a life in prison. The Boston Globe showed an image of his prison home for life within one mile of Foxboro the home of the Patriots. People have said that from the recreation pod of the prison, you can heard the cheers of the crowd at the stadium. It's a life of pain and suffering that he choice over joy and love. I am not sorry for his choices, I only wish I was given a choice between life and death, for this I feel sorry for his family that he choice over them and the family of the victim that will never see him again. Life is not fair but Hernandez got what he deserves.
I, like many others are fighting to live, shame on Hernandez for his callous regard for life.
Tuesday, April 14, 2015
Cherry Blossoms
"Unless a tree has borne blossoms in spring, you will vainly look for fruit on it in autumn." Walter Scott
This is the week that the cherry blossoms are in fully bloom in Japan and Washington D.C. It is the most beautiful sight to see all those pink blossoms along the Potomac
River. I worked in Baltimore, Maryland for a short time and was delighted to take the journey to Washington D.C. to stroll along the banks of the river under the cherry blossoms.
When I was a child growing up, we had a cherry tree in our backyard, planted when my younger sister was born. It gave shade in the summertime and beautiful blossoms in the spring. It marked the beginning of spring and reminded me that summer was just around the corner.
The significance of the cherry blossom tree in Japanese culture goes back hundreds of years. The cherry blossom represents the fragility and the beauty of life. Unfortunately the blossoms are tragically short. Now is the time to get out and enjoy the beauty of the blossoms!
This is the week that the cherry blossoms are in fully bloom in Japan and Washington D.C. It is the most beautiful sight to see all those pink blossoms along the Potomac
River. I worked in Baltimore, Maryland for a short time and was delighted to take the journey to Washington D.C. to stroll along the banks of the river under the cherry blossoms.
When I was a child growing up, we had a cherry tree in our backyard, planted when my younger sister was born. It gave shade in the summertime and beautiful blossoms in the spring. It marked the beginning of spring and reminded me that summer was just around the corner.
The significance of the cherry blossom tree in Japanese culture goes back hundreds of years. The cherry blossom represents the fragility and the beauty of life. Unfortunately the blossoms are tragically short. Now is the time to get out and enjoy the beauty of the blossoms!
Monday, April 13, 2015
Look good, feel better
"While dealing with cancer every patient need a makeover for the spirit...and that's a beautiful thing!" American Cancer Society
Today I participated in a program called "Look Good Feel Better". It's a program offered by the American Cancer Society. The program helps women manage the appearance related to side effects from chemotherapy and radiation treatment. This is a hands-on workshop provided by certified cosmetologist who offer makeup, hair, skin, and nail-care tips and advice.
The best part of the program is that all participants receive FREE make-up and skincare tool kits. All the products are full size name-brand make-up and skincare.
It was a one and half hour workshop where you get to ask an expert about skin and hair changes that cancer treatment can cause. They also gave advice on head coverings, including, hats, wigs and scarfs.
Registration in advance is required. To find out where this program is offered in your area, call 1-800-227-2345.
Just as the weather is changing it's a great time to revitalize your appearance! ENJOY!
Today I participated in a program called "Look Good Feel Better". It's a program offered by the American Cancer Society. The program helps women manage the appearance related to side effects from chemotherapy and radiation treatment. This is a hands-on workshop provided by certified cosmetologist who offer makeup, hair, skin, and nail-care tips and advice.
The best part of the program is that all participants receive FREE make-up and skincare tool kits. All the products are full size name-brand make-up and skincare.
It was a one and half hour workshop where you get to ask an expert about skin and hair changes that cancer treatment can cause. They also gave advice on head coverings, including, hats, wigs and scarfs.
Registration in advance is required. To find out where this program is offered in your area, call 1-800-227-2345.
Just as the weather is changing it's a great time to revitalize your appearance! ENJOY!
Saturday, April 11, 2015
Rainbow
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. it's learning to dance in the rain."
Unknown
The last two days here in New England have been very deary, filled with fog, rain and gloom. My spirit has been low because I have not felt well but I also feel think the weather has not helped. To my surprise this morning when I woke up I looked out into the horizon and saw a rainbow! Just the sight of it lifted my spirit.
This sight brought comfort to me, as I felt like a leaf falling off the tree making room for spring growth. I realized that only by facing the gloom of the day and seeing the rainbow I began to feel the passion for being alive.
There are days when I don't want to think about pain and cancer, rather I would like to see the rainbow and the hope it brings for rebirth.
Unknown
The last two days here in New England have been very deary, filled with fog, rain and gloom. My spirit has been low because I have not felt well but I also feel think the weather has not helped. To my surprise this morning when I woke up I looked out into the horizon and saw a rainbow! Just the sight of it lifted my spirit.
This sight brought comfort to me, as I felt like a leaf falling off the tree making room for spring growth. I realized that only by facing the gloom of the day and seeing the rainbow I began to feel the passion for being alive.
There are days when I don't want to think about pain and cancer, rather I would like to see the rainbow and the hope it brings for rebirth.
Wednesday, April 8, 2015
Chronic Illness
"Life with a chronic illness is a struggle to say the least. A struggle to get dressed, look like I'm awake, smile when I want to cry and get up when I want nothing more than to stay in bed and sleep the day away....But I still refuse to sink."
The last couple of days have been both up and down. I feel stressed and have not felt like blogging. I believe that my body knows I have five days until I receive my flasdex injection that help block the hormone that allows my breast cancer to growth. It feels like my last shot is wearing off and I am feeling more pain as a result.
I am trying to keep things in perspective. I am trying to accept that everyday is not the 4th of July and that some days I just don't feel good. Today is one of those days.
I have decided that is ok not to pretend that all is well. Tomorrow is another day and I'm sure I will feel better!
The last couple of days have been both up and down. I feel stressed and have not felt like blogging. I believe that my body knows I have five days until I receive my flasdex injection that help block the hormone that allows my breast cancer to growth. It feels like my last shot is wearing off and I am feeling more pain as a result.
I am trying to keep things in perspective. I am trying to accept that everyday is not the 4th of July and that some days I just don't feel good. Today is one of those days.
I have decided that is ok not to pretend that all is well. Tomorrow is another day and I'm sure I will feel better!
Tuesday, April 7, 2015
Fairy Tales
"Where there is flowers there is hope."
Lady Bird Johnson, First Lady of the United States
Well today I saw the first crocus of the season, leading me to feel hope that spring is on it's way. I feel the transformation from winter to spring is like a fairy tale where Cinderella is touched by a magic wand and whisked off to the palace as a completed, transformed princess. In actually that is not realistic but when I saw the crocus I felt that instant transformation of winter to spring.
I believe that true transformation is not a slow, gradual growth but an instant change that happens right before my eyes. Last week we had snow covering the ground and today there is little signs of the harsh winter we had here in the northeast.
My cancer is also one of those transformations where one day I feel great, healed only to have a bad day where every inch of my body hurts. I only wish I had that magic wand that transforms me into a healthy specimen. The reality is that I have to take my cancer one day at a time and believe a better day is coming. Here is to tomorrow and a fairy tale come true.
Lady Bird Johnson, First Lady of the United States
Well today I saw the first crocus of the season, leading me to feel hope that spring is on it's way. I feel the transformation from winter to spring is like a fairy tale where Cinderella is touched by a magic wand and whisked off to the palace as a completed, transformed princess. In actually that is not realistic but when I saw the crocus I felt that instant transformation of winter to spring.
I believe that true transformation is not a slow, gradual growth but an instant change that happens right before my eyes. Last week we had snow covering the ground and today there is little signs of the harsh winter we had here in the northeast.
My cancer is also one of those transformations where one day I feel great, healed only to have a bad day where every inch of my body hurts. I only wish I had that magic wand that transforms me into a healthy specimen. The reality is that I have to take my cancer one day at a time and believe a better day is coming. Here is to tomorrow and a fairy tale come true.
Saturday, April 4, 2015
Easter
"In your Easter bonnet with all the frills upon it,
You'll be the grandest lady in the Easter parade."
Irving Berlin, "Easter Parade"
Easter is my favorite holiday, one reason is because I was born on Easter Sunday and always thought it was a honor. Easter is the oldest festival on the Christian calendar and what many associate with the beginning of spring. For me the other greatest gift of Easter is hope.
In my opinion hope is an essential element for dealing with cancer. Hope and healthy life choices in my opinion yields benefits in every area of my life. I have made a decision not to face my problems from fear and just as Jesus showed millions when he sacrificed himself on the crucifix, life can reveal hope. This is not meant to be a religious blog about Jesus, but a blog about the hope that I feel results when your mind and spirit is aligned in the same light.
What every you religious or atheist belief you may have, I wish you hope and peace in a world that has a lot of hate and fear. Happy Spring!
You'll be the grandest lady in the Easter parade."
Irving Berlin, "Easter Parade"
Easter is my favorite holiday, one reason is because I was born on Easter Sunday and always thought it was a honor. Easter is the oldest festival on the Christian calendar and what many associate with the beginning of spring. For me the other greatest gift of Easter is hope.
In my opinion hope is an essential element for dealing with cancer. Hope and healthy life choices in my opinion yields benefits in every area of my life. I have made a decision not to face my problems from fear and just as Jesus showed millions when he sacrificed himself on the crucifix, life can reveal hope. This is not meant to be a religious blog about Jesus, but a blog about the hope that I feel results when your mind and spirit is aligned in the same light.
What every you religious or atheist belief you may have, I wish you hope and peace in a world that has a lot of hate and fear. Happy Spring!
Wednesday, April 1, 2015
Code of Conduct
"All beings want to be happy. Yet finding happiness is often not as simple as it appears." Dalai Lama of Tibet
Today I went to my weekly cancer support group at the library. The topic of the day was about the will to live and the reasons why we really wanted to live. The narrator of the group was a clinical therapist who explained her thoughts about how to prolong your life while fighting cancer. An important point she made was that it is natural for most people to resist death but while fighting cancer it is also natural to feel depressed and lacking at times to want to go on fighting with the pain, stress and exhaustion. She also pointed out that people seek happiness in many different was, yet the desired result frequently remains elusive. Most people look to their jobs, children, relationships or a hundred others places for fulfillment and happiness. These solutions may work for at least a short time, however, the long term affect lies in finding your deeper needs, priorities and true purpose in life. Not an easy task for most of us.
The exercise she gave us was to write down a list of how we want to be remember when you are gone. At first this seemed a little morbid but once I started writing my list I began to see that I had good intentions but need to work harder to achieve this list. This is my list:
1. Someone who was trustworthy
2. A good mother, wife, sister and friend
3. Someone who could laugh at themselves
4. Someone who was compassionate
5. A women who true to her word and committed to her word as her bond
6. A caring human who is generous with my time
7. A good listener
8. Someone who has a good sense of humor.
This was a good exercise for me and I urge other to try it. I know where I can improve and where some of these things can help me find happiness.
Today I went to my weekly cancer support group at the library. The topic of the day was about the will to live and the reasons why we really wanted to live. The narrator of the group was a clinical therapist who explained her thoughts about how to prolong your life while fighting cancer. An important point she made was that it is natural for most people to resist death but while fighting cancer it is also natural to feel depressed and lacking at times to want to go on fighting with the pain, stress and exhaustion. She also pointed out that people seek happiness in many different was, yet the desired result frequently remains elusive. Most people look to their jobs, children, relationships or a hundred others places for fulfillment and happiness. These solutions may work for at least a short time, however, the long term affect lies in finding your deeper needs, priorities and true purpose in life. Not an easy task for most of us.
The exercise she gave us was to write down a list of how we want to be remember when you are gone. At first this seemed a little morbid but once I started writing my list I began to see that I had good intentions but need to work harder to achieve this list. This is my list:
1. Someone who was trustworthy
2. A good mother, wife, sister and friend
3. Someone who could laugh at themselves
4. Someone who was compassionate
5. A women who true to her word and committed to her word as her bond
6. A caring human who is generous with my time
7. A good listener
8. Someone who has a good sense of humor.
This was a good exercise for me and I urge other to try it. I know where I can improve and where some of these things can help me find happiness.
Monday, March 30, 2015
Toxins
"A body full of toxins is like a freeway full of cars-- nothing is moving."
Kulreet Chaudhary, MD, neurologist at Scripps Memorial Hosiptal
Toxins have been proven through medical studies to change the material of normal cells. These toxins can come in external factors such as cigarette smoke, exposure to other carcinogenic chemicals, exposure to ionizing radiation or internal factors such as abnormal hormonal activity or inherited genetic abnormalities that may cause cancer. Once cancer develops it can be furthered by the consumption of cancer promoters, including alcohol, tobacco, or a high fat diet. Unfortunately, this theory does not always apply because many people who smoke, drink alcohol, or eat high fat diets do not get cancer. There have been studies also that show how to rid the body of the harmful toxins.
Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary indicates in his recent article in "Woman's World" Journal, that teas such as dandelion can actually change the biochemistry in your body, helping eliminate toxins that can cause cancer or correct underlying problems that cause weight gain. It has been shown in his studies that dandelion, lemon and cranberry are all thought to boost liver function, which helps eliminate toxins in the body.
I have been using a tea recipe that has shown weight loss and elimination of toxins in the body. I am sharing this recipe because I have seen positive results in my general well being. As with any suggestion of improved health, it is always best to consult your doctor.
Tea Recipe:
Juice of 1/2 lemon
1/4 cup of unsweetened cranberry juice
3/4 dandelion tea bags
2 1/2 cups boiling water
Pour lemon and cranberry juice into a 24 oz. pitcher; add tea bags and water. Let steep 5 minutes. Remove tea bags and enjoy hot, cold or at room temperature. Makes about 3 cups.
Kulreet Chaudhary, MD, neurologist at Scripps Memorial Hosiptal
Toxins have been proven through medical studies to change the material of normal cells. These toxins can come in external factors such as cigarette smoke, exposure to other carcinogenic chemicals, exposure to ionizing radiation or internal factors such as abnormal hormonal activity or inherited genetic abnormalities that may cause cancer. Once cancer develops it can be furthered by the consumption of cancer promoters, including alcohol, tobacco, or a high fat diet. Unfortunately, this theory does not always apply because many people who smoke, drink alcohol, or eat high fat diets do not get cancer. There have been studies also that show how to rid the body of the harmful toxins.
Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary indicates in his recent article in "Woman's World" Journal, that teas such as dandelion can actually change the biochemistry in your body, helping eliminate toxins that can cause cancer or correct underlying problems that cause weight gain. It has been shown in his studies that dandelion, lemon and cranberry are all thought to boost liver function, which helps eliminate toxins in the body.
I have been using a tea recipe that has shown weight loss and elimination of toxins in the body. I am sharing this recipe because I have seen positive results in my general well being. As with any suggestion of improved health, it is always best to consult your doctor.
Tea Recipe:
Juice of 1/2 lemon
1/4 cup of unsweetened cranberry juice
3/4 dandelion tea bags
2 1/2 cups boiling water
Pour lemon and cranberry juice into a 24 oz. pitcher; add tea bags and water. Let steep 5 minutes. Remove tea bags and enjoy hot, cold or at room temperature. Makes about 3 cups.
Friday, March 27, 2015
A Tiny Step
"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop." Confucius
As the weather is beginning to change, it is almost 45 degrees here in eastern New England, I decided it was time to stop hibernating and begin moving. In one of my earlier blogs I mentioned that I used to walk several miles a day, but with the cancer in my bones it was hard enough to put one foot in from of the other.
Today I brought myself a pedometer to measure the amount of step I take a day. It is recommended that the average adult should take between 9000-10,000 steps a day. With this in mind I decided to try to keep my stepping action somewhere in the middle. Now this may sound like an easy task until I started.
One mile covers about 2000 steps. This means that the health community expects an average adult to walk 4.5-5 miles a day, to maintain good health. Having gotten out of bed at 8:00 am, by noon time I had just about taken 900 steps. I have a long way to go. I plan on recording on my blog every day how many steps I can achieve in a day. I feel this will keep my accountable and hopefully motivated. As Confucius's said, " It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop!"
As the weather is beginning to change, it is almost 45 degrees here in eastern New England, I decided it was time to stop hibernating and begin moving. In one of my earlier blogs I mentioned that I used to walk several miles a day, but with the cancer in my bones it was hard enough to put one foot in from of the other.
Today I brought myself a pedometer to measure the amount of step I take a day. It is recommended that the average adult should take between 9000-10,000 steps a day. With this in mind I decided to try to keep my stepping action somewhere in the middle. Now this may sound like an easy task until I started.
One mile covers about 2000 steps. This means that the health community expects an average adult to walk 4.5-5 miles a day, to maintain good health. Having gotten out of bed at 8:00 am, by noon time I had just about taken 900 steps. I have a long way to go. I plan on recording on my blog every day how many steps I can achieve in a day. I feel this will keep my accountable and hopefully motivated. As Confucius's said, " It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop!"
Thursday, March 26, 2015
Pain and Suffering
"Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life.... I can choice to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have- life itself." Walter Anderson, author
As I continue on the journey through cancer, I recognize daily what I want in life is pleasure and joy, and what I want to avoid is pain and suffering. Unfortunately, that is not always possible because cancer has a mind of it's own.
Without even thinking about it, I plunge ahead each day, doing the things I hope and believe will bring me pleasure, make me happy and work to avoid suffering and pain.
I have found out from speaking with others facing the challenges of cancer, that each of us have a different idea about what brings us happiness or what brings us pain, Some have told me exercise helps, others feel it is in your diet, still others feel it is all in your attitude or religious beliefs. Nonetheless, underlying all these activities is the same desire to seek pleasure and avoid pain.
What my doctors have told me is that regardless of the type of cancer or the stage at the time of diagnosis, the degree of mental, emotional, and spiritual pain is often the same. With this comes confusion, feeling overwhelmed and deeply afraid. I have been told this normal and it too will pass.
I want you to know that their are support groups that can help with this uncertainty.
I found that help from my local cancer center and wish the same for others dealing with cancer.
As I continue on the journey through cancer, I recognize daily what I want in life is pleasure and joy, and what I want to avoid is pain and suffering. Unfortunately, that is not always possible because cancer has a mind of it's own.
Without even thinking about it, I plunge ahead each day, doing the things I hope and believe will bring me pleasure, make me happy and work to avoid suffering and pain.
I have found out from speaking with others facing the challenges of cancer, that each of us have a different idea about what brings us happiness or what brings us pain, Some have told me exercise helps, others feel it is in your diet, still others feel it is all in your attitude or religious beliefs. Nonetheless, underlying all these activities is the same desire to seek pleasure and avoid pain.
What my doctors have told me is that regardless of the type of cancer or the stage at the time of diagnosis, the degree of mental, emotional, and spiritual pain is often the same. With this comes confusion, feeling overwhelmed and deeply afraid. I have been told this normal and it too will pass.
I want you to know that their are support groups that can help with this uncertainty.
I found that help from my local cancer center and wish the same for others dealing with cancer.
Wednesday, March 25, 2015
Self Awareness
"Sail beyond the horizon; fly higher then you ever thought possible; magnify your existence by helping others; be kind to people and animals of all shapes and sizes; be true to what you value most; shine your light on the world; and be the person you were born to be!" Blake Beathie
Self Awareness and Growth was the topic of conversation that they talked about at a cancer seminar at my public library today. The seminar was very informative with many tools and skills to help you become a more productive you. The one thing I took from this seminar was, that any of these tasks to improve your existence, requires training to master every detail.
The speaker encouraged everyone in the audience to challenge themselves, to help others to alter the perception that everything was about them and their cancer. This view was very inspiring for me because there are days when I spend alot of my time worrying about my health. I feel by encouraging and helping others I can fulfill the duties that I was put on this earth for and be the person I was born to be!
Self Awareness and Growth was the topic of conversation that they talked about at a cancer seminar at my public library today. The seminar was very informative with many tools and skills to help you become a more productive you. The one thing I took from this seminar was, that any of these tasks to improve your existence, requires training to master every detail.
The speaker encouraged everyone in the audience to challenge themselves, to help others to alter the perception that everything was about them and their cancer. This view was very inspiring for me because there are days when I spend alot of my time worrying about my health. I feel by encouraging and helping others I can fulfill the duties that I was put on this earth for and be the person I was born to be!
Monday, March 23, 2015
Time
"I must govern the clock, not be governed by it." Golda Meir
As Prime Minister Golda Meir reflects, I like all of us, can march in rhythm of our own drum and not let others dictate the rhythm of their drum. Now I know this is harder said than done, but I am trying to achieve this.
There was a time, before cancer struck me, that the moments of time in my life made sense. I know who I was, where I was going, why I was on the path, and when I could expect to get there. Now that I have cancer a lot of these time journeys are fulled with uncertainties.
When I found out I had stage 4 breast cancer, I realized that I was exhausted from dragging my heavy suitcase of time. (Also known as the rat race.) At that point my husband and I decided to retire from the rat race. I finally told myself to slow down. The problem was it so hard to go from running to walking. I found out that I was racing through life as if I didn't have a moment of time to waste.
Now, after three years, it's getting easier to slow down and smell the roses, as they say. When I do get panicked about time, I remind myself "There is no time but now!"
As Prime Minister Golda Meir reflects, I like all of us, can march in rhythm of our own drum and not let others dictate the rhythm of their drum. Now I know this is harder said than done, but I am trying to achieve this.
There was a time, before cancer struck me, that the moments of time in my life made sense. I know who I was, where I was going, why I was on the path, and when I could expect to get there. Now that I have cancer a lot of these time journeys are fulled with uncertainties.
When I found out I had stage 4 breast cancer, I realized that I was exhausted from dragging my heavy suitcase of time. (Also known as the rat race.) At that point my husband and I decided to retire from the rat race. I finally told myself to slow down. The problem was it so hard to go from running to walking. I found out that I was racing through life as if I didn't have a moment of time to waste.
Now, after three years, it's getting easier to slow down and smell the roses, as they say. When I do get panicked about time, I remind myself "There is no time but now!"
Friday, March 20, 2015
Spring!
"The earth laughs in flowers." Ralph Waldo Emerson
Happy Spring!!! Spring is finally here, if only as a date on the calendar. The problem is the calendar did not tell the snow of it's intention to declare the beginning of spring.
We only got 2 inches of new snow today, however, it is 2 inches too many if you ask me. As I surveyed the property around the house I noticed the flowers are fighting to push their way through the remains of a hard winter. I even did my best today to shovel around the flower beds where I had planted my fall bulbs. I don't know if it helps but it made me feel better that I was doing my very best to bring on spring.
It brought a smile to my face when I thought how silly I must look clearing the ground for the spring flowers. After completing this small task, I returned to my warm home and admired my house flowering plants that I brought weeks ago to remind me it's only a matter of time before I will be complaining about the summer heat. For now I say bring it on!
Happy Spring!!! Spring is finally here, if only as a date on the calendar. The problem is the calendar did not tell the snow of it's intention to declare the beginning of spring.
We only got 2 inches of new snow today, however, it is 2 inches too many if you ask me. As I surveyed the property around the house I noticed the flowers are fighting to push their way through the remains of a hard winter. I even did my best today to shovel around the flower beds where I had planted my fall bulbs. I don't know if it helps but it made me feel better that I was doing my very best to bring on spring.
It brought a smile to my face when I thought how silly I must look clearing the ground for the spring flowers. After completing this small task, I returned to my warm home and admired my house flowering plants that I brought weeks ago to remind me it's only a matter of time before I will be complaining about the summer heat. For now I say bring it on!
Thursday, March 19, 2015
Endurance
"It is easier to find men who are willing to volunteer to die, than to find those who are willing to endure pain with patience." Julius Caesar
One thing I have learned from suffering through cancer is that you can endure a lot of pain, if one has the believe the rewards are worth it. Julius Caesar taught us that this has to be done only with patience.
I know a lot of families that have to endure pain and suffering, yet do not get the results they hope for. My journey with cancer has been rewarding because I live with patience. I have learned that those I love the most, usually have my back, but there are times when their needs come first. It has nothing to do with me, it is where they are in their life. They may not even understand the pain you are going through because they have their own pain. I have learned to be patient and allow life to complete it's cycle. I hope more people live and learn in this environment.
For anyone who understand this, I offer them hope that the volunteers become patient in their struggles and the struggles of others.
One thing I have learned from suffering through cancer is that you can endure a lot of pain, if one has the believe the rewards are worth it. Julius Caesar taught us that this has to be done only with patience.
I know a lot of families that have to endure pain and suffering, yet do not get the results they hope for. My journey with cancer has been rewarding because I live with patience. I have learned that those I love the most, usually have my back, but there are times when their needs come first. It has nothing to do with me, it is where they are in their life. They may not even understand the pain you are going through because they have their own pain. I have learned to be patient and allow life to complete it's cycle. I hope more people live and learn in this environment.
For anyone who understand this, I offer them hope that the volunteers become patient in their struggles and the struggles of others.
Wednesday, March 18, 2015
Quitting
"Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever." Lance Armstrong
Well, Punxsutawney Phil got it right this time on Groundhog Day. Winter is not ready to quit! With a foot of snow still on the ground here in New England, the weather report for Friday is for 2"-3" of snow.
One thing that this winter has taught me, is to keep fighting even when I want to throw in the towel. I remind myself of Lance Armstrong's quote when I complaining about the weather, my cancer or the fights life throws at me. "Quitting last forever."
I had to go to the doctor yesterday to get my three monthly shots that are helping me fight my stage four cancer. My body has an amazing alarm clock built into it that tells me it is time for my shots, the pain from the cancer gradually gets worse.
As I said I get three shots, one for my bones, xgeva, and two to fight the growth of the cancer. The one shot, xgeva, I get in my arm but the other two, flasodex, I get in my buttock. Flasodex is a estrogen prohibitor to prevent the cancer from growing. Basically, my doctor explain it to me that the breast cancer I have grows on estrogen.
So far this treatment has been working well for me as can be seen with the reduction of my blood cancer numbers. Although the shots in my buttock hurt when they are administrated, the alternative to the shots are not even worth talking about. For now I will go on fighting and pray that God gives me more time on this earth! For that I remain grateful.
Well, Punxsutawney Phil got it right this time on Groundhog Day. Winter is not ready to quit! With a foot of snow still on the ground here in New England, the weather report for Friday is for 2"-3" of snow.
One thing that this winter has taught me, is to keep fighting even when I want to throw in the towel. I remind myself of Lance Armstrong's quote when I complaining about the weather, my cancer or the fights life throws at me. "Quitting last forever."
I had to go to the doctor yesterday to get my three monthly shots that are helping me fight my stage four cancer. My body has an amazing alarm clock built into it that tells me it is time for my shots, the pain from the cancer gradually gets worse.
As I said I get three shots, one for my bones, xgeva, and two to fight the growth of the cancer. The one shot, xgeva, I get in my arm but the other two, flasodex, I get in my buttock. Flasodex is a estrogen prohibitor to prevent the cancer from growing. Basically, my doctor explain it to me that the breast cancer I have grows on estrogen.
So far this treatment has been working well for me as can be seen with the reduction of my blood cancer numbers. Although the shots in my buttock hurt when they are administrated, the alternative to the shots are not even worth talking about. For now I will go on fighting and pray that God gives me more time on this earth! For that I remain grateful.
Tuesday, March 17, 2015
Luck
"Luck is believing you're lucky." Tennessee Williams
Happy Saint Patrick's Day! Today, March 17th, is the day the Irish celebrate the death of the foremost patron saint of Ireland, Saint Patrick. Having been raised a true Irish Catholic, this day is reserved for wearing of the green, eating cornbeef/ cabbage and the day during Lent when the restrictions of eating and drinking alcohol is lifted. This lifting of restrictions has resulted in the holiday's tradition, at times, of the over indulgence of alcohol consumption.
Growing up my father told us that on St. Patrick's Day, everyone was Irish or wished they were. He took great pride in the Irish culture and the day of celebration. There has been many concerns about excessive celebrating and in as late as 2007, Father Vincent Twomey of Ireland wrote, "It is a time to reclaim St. Patrick's Day as a church festival" and questioned the "need for mindless alcohol-fueled consumption."
As we celebrate this festive holiday, wear your green with pride, drink responsibly and enjoy the sunshine in the Irish eyes. May the luck of the Irish be with you!
Happy Saint Patrick's Day! Today, March 17th, is the day the Irish celebrate the death of the foremost patron saint of Ireland, Saint Patrick. Having been raised a true Irish Catholic, this day is reserved for wearing of the green, eating cornbeef/ cabbage and the day during Lent when the restrictions of eating and drinking alcohol is lifted. This lifting of restrictions has resulted in the holiday's tradition, at times, of the over indulgence of alcohol consumption.
Growing up my father told us that on St. Patrick's Day, everyone was Irish or wished they were. He took great pride in the Irish culture and the day of celebration. There has been many concerns about excessive celebrating and in as late as 2007, Father Vincent Twomey of Ireland wrote, "It is a time to reclaim St. Patrick's Day as a church festival" and questioned the "need for mindless alcohol-fueled consumption."
As we celebrate this festive holiday, wear your green with pride, drink responsibly and enjoy the sunshine in the Irish eyes. May the luck of the Irish be with you!
Monday, March 16, 2015
Laughter
"I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it's the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It's probably the most important thing in a person."
Audrey Hepburn
Today as I walked down the aisles of our local Wal-Mart, I heard the familiar sound of a child's laughter. I peered around around a corner to experience the sight of a small child playing with a stuffed kitten in a basket that meows when the child touched it's paw. The child smiled from ear to ear as the stuffed animal continued to amuse him. The laughter was so contagious I started to laugh too. It was more contagious than a cough, sniffle or sneeze.
At that moment, I realized how innocent this moment was. I just went along with the ride of the normal innocence of a child's laughter and this brought a smile to my
face. The mother of the child glanced at me and I instantaneously felt a bonding of human spirits.
Laughter is a birthright, it lightens your burden and it inspired hope for most. It was just the recipe I needed to raise my spirits and bring me back into balance. The best part was , it was free and fun therapy that was priceless and easy to use.
I wish everyone a good belly laugh to reduce the stress of your daily chores.
Audrey Hepburn
Today as I walked down the aisles of our local Wal-Mart, I heard the familiar sound of a child's laughter. I peered around around a corner to experience the sight of a small child playing with a stuffed kitten in a basket that meows when the child touched it's paw. The child smiled from ear to ear as the stuffed animal continued to amuse him. The laughter was so contagious I started to laugh too. It was more contagious than a cough, sniffle or sneeze.
At that moment, I realized how innocent this moment was. I just went along with the ride of the normal innocence of a child's laughter and this brought a smile to my
face. The mother of the child glanced at me and I instantaneously felt a bonding of human spirits.
Laughter is a birthright, it lightens your burden and it inspired hope for most. It was just the recipe I needed to raise my spirits and bring me back into balance. The best part was , it was free and fun therapy that was priceless and easy to use.
I wish everyone a good belly laugh to reduce the stress of your daily chores.
Wednesday, March 11, 2015
Spring is on the way!
"Keep your face always towards the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you."
Walt Whitman
Finally, a day above 50 degrees!!! Today my husband and I went down to the banks of the Quinebaug River and to our great surprise the ducks had come out of their coves where they hide for the winter. They were scouring around to find food. The sight of the bread we brought made the ducks so excited that they were quacking louder than I've ever heard. The happiness that the ducks were displaying made us laugh and smile. These are the little moments when I can stop worrying about my cancer and see that all creatures on earth have their own struggle to survive.
When we finished throwing the crumbs of bread, I promised the ducks that we would be back tomorrow with more food. It was almost like they looked at us and understood.
Walt Whitman
Finally, a day above 50 degrees!!! Today my husband and I went down to the banks of the Quinebaug River and to our great surprise the ducks had come out of their coves where they hide for the winter. They were scouring around to find food. The sight of the bread we brought made the ducks so excited that they were quacking louder than I've ever heard. The happiness that the ducks were displaying made us laugh and smile. These are the little moments when I can stop worrying about my cancer and see that all creatures on earth have their own struggle to survive.
When we finished throwing the crumbs of bread, I promised the ducks that we would be back tomorrow with more food. It was almost like they looked at us and understood.
Monday, March 9, 2015
Day Light Savings Time
"Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealth, and wise."
Ben Franklin
Although this old proverb does hold a lot of credence, I find the use of Day Light Savings Time (DST) does nothing to ensure the promoting of these historical words. First, there is the nuisance factor of resetting your clocks twice a year. Second, given that I have cancer, I don't think that DST or getting up early cures cancer. Thirdly, I like the quiet time one can enjoy in darkness. As a matter of fact, I like it when I wake-up at 3:00 in the AM to go to the bathroom and all the world seems quite and still. I don't enjoy it when it is still dark in the morning and my phone starts ringing an hour earlier than I'm prepared for. Nor when it's still light out and I want to relax in the stillness of the night.
Most people who read this may say "There are advantages to DST", like more daylight for recreation, reducing heating and lighting demands, or less automobile accidents but it still takes my a few good weeks to the time adjustment. Having cancer has made me feel more protective of my valuable time.
Well I guess my only choice is to stop complaining and get with the program or move to Arizona or Hawaii, where they don' t observe DST. For now I think I will stay right here in New England and enjoy the beauty of the snow for an hour longer and realize that spring has not sprung with our moving the clocks ahead an hour!
Ben Franklin
Although this old proverb does hold a lot of credence, I find the use of Day Light Savings Time (DST) does nothing to ensure the promoting of these historical words. First, there is the nuisance factor of resetting your clocks twice a year. Second, given that I have cancer, I don't think that DST or getting up early cures cancer. Thirdly, I like the quiet time one can enjoy in darkness. As a matter of fact, I like it when I wake-up at 3:00 in the AM to go to the bathroom and all the world seems quite and still. I don't enjoy it when it is still dark in the morning and my phone starts ringing an hour earlier than I'm prepared for. Nor when it's still light out and I want to relax in the stillness of the night.
Most people who read this may say "There are advantages to DST", like more daylight for recreation, reducing heating and lighting demands, or less automobile accidents but it still takes my a few good weeks to the time adjustment. Having cancer has made me feel more protective of my valuable time.
Well I guess my only choice is to stop complaining and get with the program or move to Arizona or Hawaii, where they don' t observe DST. For now I think I will stay right here in New England and enjoy the beauty of the snow for an hour longer and realize that spring has not sprung with our moving the clocks ahead an hour!
Sunday, March 8, 2015
Family
"She took comfort in the familiarity of his smell, knowing that if she had lost all her possessions and her home, at least she would have her family."
Sage Steadman, Upon Destiny's Song
Today I had a very interesting conversation with my husband about the importance of family. My husband is an only child and has no living blood members of his immediate relatives. His mother and father, both deceased, were immigrants who came from Hungry and Germany, respectfully, without any know relatives that they had contact or knowledge of. I on the other hand have two grown children, three sisters, brother-in-laws, nieces, nephews and several cousins that I keep in contact with consistently. I felt a sense of lose for my present husband ( a second marriage), that he felt alone in this world. We have only been married for three and half years but tried to convince him that my family was his family. This idea was a foreign thought to him, although, he has a great relationship with me and my family.
As our conversation continued about what a family is or is not, I realized that the definition of family was not universal. I take my family idea from a community of fragments which reside inside of me. It is composed of bits and pieces from my parents, siblings, children and friends. My spouses has told me he is a vision of what a individual in a group is. When I think about it, as I just said, family is not universal and should be individual.
I am going to remain alert and attentive to making a healthy relationship with my family that includes their reality as well as mine.
Sage Steadman, Upon Destiny's Song
Today I had a very interesting conversation with my husband about the importance of family. My husband is an only child and has no living blood members of his immediate relatives. His mother and father, both deceased, were immigrants who came from Hungry and Germany, respectfully, without any know relatives that they had contact or knowledge of. I on the other hand have two grown children, three sisters, brother-in-laws, nieces, nephews and several cousins that I keep in contact with consistently. I felt a sense of lose for my present husband ( a second marriage), that he felt alone in this world. We have only been married for three and half years but tried to convince him that my family was his family. This idea was a foreign thought to him, although, he has a great relationship with me and my family.
As our conversation continued about what a family is or is not, I realized that the definition of family was not universal. I take my family idea from a community of fragments which reside inside of me. It is composed of bits and pieces from my parents, siblings, children and friends. My spouses has told me he is a vision of what a individual in a group is. When I think about it, as I just said, family is not universal and should be individual.
I am going to remain alert and attentive to making a healthy relationship with my family that includes their reality as well as mine.
Friday, March 6, 2015
"Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live."
John Rohn, Author, Fitness, Body Care
When I woke up this morning, I thought what can I do to for myself to celebrate the coming of Daylight Savings Time. I decided to call and make an appointment to have my nails manicured. This is a very simple pleasure that I don't always afford myself but I enjoy. The big decision is always what color to paint them and design or no design. I decided after a small time of pondering to pick out a bright pink.
I love getting my nails done. It's like a new haircut or a terrific skin care treatment. Manicured nails make me feel neat and pulled together. The salon I go to gave the following 3 tips on how to get on the path to beautiful nails.
1. Don't cut cuticles to close to he nail bed. "The cuticle is the natural barrier to fungus and bacteria, once you breach that barrier, the protection is lost." says Dana Stern, MD, a dermatologist at Mount Sinai Medical Center in NYC
2. Moisturize the nail bed and cuticle. Nails that are prone to breakage usually need moisture, according to Dr. Stern.
3. Take biotin supplements ( a member of the vitamin B family) they help increase nail thickness and prevent breakage.
I'm glad I'm going to get my nails manicured today. It puts a little sunshine in my day. Try It! After all thus cold winter weather, we all need a little TLC!
John Rohn, Author, Fitness, Body Care
When I woke up this morning, I thought what can I do to for myself to celebrate the coming of Daylight Savings Time. I decided to call and make an appointment to have my nails manicured. This is a very simple pleasure that I don't always afford myself but I enjoy. The big decision is always what color to paint them and design or no design. I decided after a small time of pondering to pick out a bright pink.
I love getting my nails done. It's like a new haircut or a terrific skin care treatment. Manicured nails make me feel neat and pulled together. The salon I go to gave the following 3 tips on how to get on the path to beautiful nails.
1. Don't cut cuticles to close to he nail bed. "The cuticle is the natural barrier to fungus and bacteria, once you breach that barrier, the protection is lost." says Dana Stern, MD, a dermatologist at Mount Sinai Medical Center in NYC
2. Moisturize the nail bed and cuticle. Nails that are prone to breakage usually need moisture, according to Dr. Stern.
3. Take biotin supplements ( a member of the vitamin B family) they help increase nail thickness and prevent breakage.
I'm glad I'm going to get my nails manicured today. It puts a little sunshine in my day. Try It! After all thus cold winter weather, we all need a little TLC!
Thursday, March 5, 2015
"Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out."
John Wooden
Have you ever had something unexpected happen to you and then as a result of that happening, something else happens? Well yesterday I made a decision to go to the dentist because I had a tooth ache that was hurting and then improving, only to return days later. My husband didn't think it was necessary to go to the dentist, because we don't have dental insurance, but I didn't agree because I was afraid it may have something to do with my cancer. It was a freeing attitude to made my decision based on what I felt was best for me.
I made the call to the dentist and there was a cancellation, so they could see me in a half an hour. I thought the cancellation was a sign that I made the right choice. On our way to the dentist, I told my husband to stop and get a coffee and newspaper so he had something to read in the waiting room. We stopped at a small store we have never been in. My husband graped a paper and coffee, then at the register, asked for a three dollar scratch off. This was unusual because he didn't usually buy scratch off.
In the waiting room, my husband gave me the scratch off ticket. I began the task of getting out a coin and began scratching. At first I didn't believe it but my husband confirmed that we had won a hundred dollars!
To think that we won't have won the money if I hadn't made the choice to go to the dentist. Proving what I truly believe; Either your choices are good for you or it brings up what you need in order to create good for you. I thinks it's all about good karma.
The dentist appointment was the right choice because I needed an antibiotic and the advice to contact my cancer doctor about my sensitive teeth which could have resulted from my the cancer I have in my bones.
John Wooden
Have you ever had something unexpected happen to you and then as a result of that happening, something else happens? Well yesterday I made a decision to go to the dentist because I had a tooth ache that was hurting and then improving, only to return days later. My husband didn't think it was necessary to go to the dentist, because we don't have dental insurance, but I didn't agree because I was afraid it may have something to do with my cancer. It was a freeing attitude to made my decision based on what I felt was best for me.
I made the call to the dentist and there was a cancellation, so they could see me in a half an hour. I thought the cancellation was a sign that I made the right choice. On our way to the dentist, I told my husband to stop and get a coffee and newspaper so he had something to read in the waiting room. We stopped at a small store we have never been in. My husband graped a paper and coffee, then at the register, asked for a three dollar scratch off. This was unusual because he didn't usually buy scratch off.
In the waiting room, my husband gave me the scratch off ticket. I began the task of getting out a coin and began scratching. At first I didn't believe it but my husband confirmed that we had won a hundred dollars!
To think that we won't have won the money if I hadn't made the choice to go to the dentist. Proving what I truly believe; Either your choices are good for you or it brings up what you need in order to create good for you. I thinks it's all about good karma.
The dentist appointment was the right choice because I needed an antibiotic and the advice to contact my cancer doctor about my sensitive teeth which could have resulted from my the cancer I have in my bones.
Friday, February 27, 2015
Written Words
"Without knowing the force of words, it is impossible to know more." Confucius
Yesterday one of my sisters ( I have three of them), informed me that a friend of ours, father had passed away. It was very sudden, a massive heart attack. My first response was how tragic as he was only 70 years old. This thought brought me to remember when my father died at the age of 62, suddenly a shiver went down my arms. Losing a parent is never easy, if they die quickly or after a long illness. I realized that it really was about being reminded of my own morality.
I went on facebook and saw a picture that had been posted of him, so full of life, standing with one of his grand-daughters. My first instinct was to leave a comment expressing my sympathy, then it dawned on me how impersonal that seemed. Unfortunately social media is used too often for these personal moments. I feel that I would be cheating by just sending a note on facebook. After all he was someones father, hudsband, grandfather, brother and friend of others. I decided that sending a hand written note would be a better choice.
My sister said she was going to make and delivery dinner to the family (another lost tradition most people, including myself, don't do any more). I went to the local card store to get a card and was confronted with rows and rows of cards for every occasion. As I walked over to the sympathy card section, I passed a women reading juvenile birthday cards and laughing out loud about the humor she read in these innocent cards. It reminded me how this world is losing the personal touch when social media replaces human feelings of warmth and comfort of the written word.
I selected my card and walked out of the store with a smile thinking of the note I was going to write and the thought that a hand written not was not so old-fashion after all.
Yesterday one of my sisters ( I have three of them), informed me that a friend of ours, father had passed away. It was very sudden, a massive heart attack. My first response was how tragic as he was only 70 years old. This thought brought me to remember when my father died at the age of 62, suddenly a shiver went down my arms. Losing a parent is never easy, if they die quickly or after a long illness. I realized that it really was about being reminded of my own morality.
I went on facebook and saw a picture that had been posted of him, so full of life, standing with one of his grand-daughters. My first instinct was to leave a comment expressing my sympathy, then it dawned on me how impersonal that seemed. Unfortunately social media is used too often for these personal moments. I feel that I would be cheating by just sending a note on facebook. After all he was someones father, hudsband, grandfather, brother and friend of others. I decided that sending a hand written note would be a better choice.
My sister said she was going to make and delivery dinner to the family (another lost tradition most people, including myself, don't do any more). I went to the local card store to get a card and was confronted with rows and rows of cards for every occasion. As I walked over to the sympathy card section, I passed a women reading juvenile birthday cards and laughing out loud about the humor she read in these innocent cards. It reminded me how this world is losing the personal touch when social media replaces human feelings of warmth and comfort of the written word.
I selected my card and walked out of the store with a smile thinking of the note I was going to write and the thought that a hand written not was not so old-fashion after all.
Wednesday, February 25, 2015
"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear." Ambrose Redmoon
Today I have to call and schedule my next PET-scan. For those not familiar with the term, PET-scan uses a small amount of an injected radioactive drug to the individual to show where cancer cells are active in the body. I know it doesn't seem logical to have to add more poison into the system just to know where the poison is invading the body. I don't make the rules, I just follow them.
This test always makes me fearful because I have to learn about the unknown, but I know it takes courage to do what needs to be done. This reminds me of something my husband always says to me, " If you are going to strike out, go out swinging." As you may have guessed, he is a big baseball fan. He tells me often, that this is a winning mindset.
With this in mind, I try to envision going into the scanning tunnel with the thought of my cancer cells evaporating before the camera because I am stronger and more courageous than the cancer cells. I mentally visualize destroying the cancer cells in my body with the injected poison. In my mind I keep the heartfelt wish that I will see my two grown children mature and become more independent, marry, have their own children and live a full life. This has given me the courage to continue to live a purposeful and meaningful life.
In closing, the main purpose of creating this blog is to be a voice of encouragement to women like me, who are fighting in the trenches with courage and not guided by fear. I hope I accomplished this goal.
Today I have to call and schedule my next PET-scan. For those not familiar with the term, PET-scan uses a small amount of an injected radioactive drug to the individual to show where cancer cells are active in the body. I know it doesn't seem logical to have to add more poison into the system just to know where the poison is invading the body. I don't make the rules, I just follow them.
This test always makes me fearful because I have to learn about the unknown, but I know it takes courage to do what needs to be done. This reminds me of something my husband always says to me, " If you are going to strike out, go out swinging." As you may have guessed, he is a big baseball fan. He tells me often, that this is a winning mindset.
With this in mind, I try to envision going into the scanning tunnel with the thought of my cancer cells evaporating before the camera because I am stronger and more courageous than the cancer cells. I mentally visualize destroying the cancer cells in my body with the injected poison. In my mind I keep the heartfelt wish that I will see my two grown children mature and become more independent, marry, have their own children and live a full life. This has given me the courage to continue to live a purposeful and meaningful life.
In closing, the main purpose of creating this blog is to be a voice of encouragement to women like me, who are fighting in the trenches with courage and not guided by fear. I hope I accomplished this goal.
Monday, February 23, 2015
In Living Color
"Pink isn't just a color, it's an attitude!" Miley Cyrus
While we are still in the throes of our winter deep freeze here in New England (possible snow again this coming weekend, did someone say March?), I decided to change the channel. I went to the local grocery store and brought a beautiful pot of primroses in shades of pink, along with a tall bright, vibrant yellow daffodil plant. When I got home I placed them in my kitchen window. With the snowy background in the yard, the vibrant colors instantly lifted my mood.
This small act of creativity, inspired me to walk around the house and write a list of bright hues to add to my living room, bedroom and bathroom, in the form of curtains, pillows, placemats and sheets. From my linen closet I selected a multiple combinations of color to help bring spring inside.
These little pops of color really added needed sunshine and love to my day. Only 24 more days until SPRING!!!!
While we are still in the throes of our winter deep freeze here in New England (possible snow again this coming weekend, did someone say March?), I decided to change the channel. I went to the local grocery store and brought a beautiful pot of primroses in shades of pink, along with a tall bright, vibrant yellow daffodil plant. When I got home I placed them in my kitchen window. With the snowy background in the yard, the vibrant colors instantly lifted my mood.
This small act of creativity, inspired me to walk around the house and write a list of bright hues to add to my living room, bedroom and bathroom, in the form of curtains, pillows, placemats and sheets. From my linen closet I selected a multiple combinations of color to help bring spring inside.
These little pops of color really added needed sunshine and love to my day. Only 24 more days until SPRING!!!!
Combinations Help Cure
"Put a colour upon a canvas-- it not only colours with that colour the part of the canvas to which the colour has been applied, but it also colours the surrounding space with the complementary." Henri Matisse
If you are familiar with the work of Henri Matisse, then you may understand how the combination of complimentary items have positive effects on each other. Yesterday after I wrote the blog about the use of turmeric in cancer care, I received comments from readers about how turmeric can also be helpful in combination with other vegetables like yellow onions. It appears onions in combination with turmeric interact to provide a power to enhance the cancer fighting effects of each other.
After researching how certain food combinations have an enhanced power to combat cancer, Dr. Oz reports that some of these food combinations include; chicken and broccoli; avocado and salsa; turmeric and yellow onions; and grilled salmon with watercress. Dr Oz said, "If you eat chicken and broccoli together at the same time, then it is three times more effective at fighting Breast Cancer! Salsa is full of lycopene and reduces risk of Lung Cancer and Bladder Cancer. Avocado helps you absorb five times more lycpene." Have a great Mexican Taco Night!!!
If you are familiar with the work of Henri Matisse, then you may understand how the combination of complimentary items have positive effects on each other. Yesterday after I wrote the blog about the use of turmeric in cancer care, I received comments from readers about how turmeric can also be helpful in combination with other vegetables like yellow onions. It appears onions in combination with turmeric interact to provide a power to enhance the cancer fighting effects of each other.
After researching how certain food combinations have an enhanced power to combat cancer, Dr. Oz reports that some of these food combinations include; chicken and broccoli; avocado and salsa; turmeric and yellow onions; and grilled salmon with watercress. Dr Oz said, "If you eat chicken and broccoli together at the same time, then it is three times more effective at fighting Breast Cancer! Salsa is full of lycopene and reduces risk of Lung Cancer and Bladder Cancer. Avocado helps you absorb five times more lycpene." Have a great Mexican Taco Night!!!
Sunday, February 22, 2015
Turmeric
"Turmeric is a perennial plant from the ginger family. Turmeric is a great source of the cancer fighting compound curcumin." Dr. Mehmet Oz, MD
When I first was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer is 2011,I have become increasingly motivated to eat foods that help facilitate recovery. I am even more interested with natural non-toxic approaches to treat my cancer.
Studies at the Cancer Centers of America have shown that one of these approaches include the use of turmeric, a powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant that can help fight cancer. The women of Okinawna, Japan drink turmeric tea daily and have one fifth the rate of breast cancer than American women. Traditional doses are in the range of 2-3 tsps. of turmeric daily, according to Julie T Chen, MD, Integrative Medicine.
Here's a quick little recipe that I found online and drink regularly. Feel free to adjust the proportions of fresh ginger and or turmeric.
Ingredients:
1 cup of water
1/4 teaspoon ground turmeric
1/2 teaspoon ground ginger
a splash of almond milk, soy milk or cow milk
honey, agave, or maple syrup
In a small saucepan, bring water to boil and simmer for 10 minutes. Stir in milk and strain tea into cup. Add sweetener to taste.
BON APPETITE!
When I first was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer is 2011,I have become increasingly motivated to eat foods that help facilitate recovery. I am even more interested with natural non-toxic approaches to treat my cancer.
Studies at the Cancer Centers of America have shown that one of these approaches include the use of turmeric, a powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant that can help fight cancer. The women of Okinawna, Japan drink turmeric tea daily and have one fifth the rate of breast cancer than American women. Traditional doses are in the range of 2-3 tsps. of turmeric daily, according to Julie T Chen, MD, Integrative Medicine.
Here's a quick little recipe that I found online and drink regularly. Feel free to adjust the proportions of fresh ginger and or turmeric.
Ingredients:
1 cup of water
1/4 teaspoon ground turmeric
1/2 teaspoon ground ginger
a splash of almond milk, soy milk or cow milk
honey, agave, or maple syrup
In a small saucepan, bring water to boil and simmer for 10 minutes. Stir in milk and strain tea into cup. Add sweetener to taste.
BON APPETITE!
Tuesday, February 17, 2015
" A strong and positive attitude creates more miracles than any other thing, because life is 10% how you make it, and 90% how you take it" Walt Whitman
Today I went to my monthly doctor visit and I am happy to report no changes in my cancer condition. All my test results came back the same, a little improvement, as last month. A big sigh of relief!
I asked my doctor if there was anything I could do to enhance my chances with cancer. What he told me, surprised me a little. He said, that there was no right or wrong way to personally deal with cancer. He said to stay positive, eat healthy and pray daily.
With that being said, I realized that a positive attitude was very important and one I followed regularly. Even when I don't feel like it, I still get up early, shower, fix my hair, and put on make-up. Doing all these things help me feel normal and healthy, even if I'm not.
I also try not to let cancer define me. I tell myself I am in control of my cancer and I will not be a victim. Doing these little things makes me feel that they are working, especially when my doctor tells me I am holding my own with cancer.
Today I went to my monthly doctor visit and I am happy to report no changes in my cancer condition. All my test results came back the same, a little improvement, as last month. A big sigh of relief!
I asked my doctor if there was anything I could do to enhance my chances with cancer. What he told me, surprised me a little. He said, that there was no right or wrong way to personally deal with cancer. He said to stay positive, eat healthy and pray daily.
With that being said, I realized that a positive attitude was very important and one I followed regularly. Even when I don't feel like it, I still get up early, shower, fix my hair, and put on make-up. Doing all these things help me feel normal and healthy, even if I'm not.
I also try not to let cancer define me. I tell myself I am in control of my cancer and I will not be a victim. Doing these little things makes me feel that they are working, especially when my doctor tells me I am holding my own with cancer.
Saturday, February 14, 2015
All We Need is Love, Love, Love....
"We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone." Orson Welles
"Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead." Oscar Wilde
Happy Valentine's Day!
"Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead." Oscar Wilde
Happy Valentine's Day!
Thursday, February 12, 2015
Hope
"A life lived for others, is the only life worth living." Albert Einstein
After watching the news today about the life and death of aid worker, Kayla Mueller, I realized how much influence she had on this cruel world. I looked at many pictures of her and saw a smiling face filled with love and hope. She lived her life to help others end suffering. She appeared to really want to help people and would probably have been the kind of person who showed hope and optimism for people like myself fighting cancer. In my view, she is truly a person that Albert Einstein describes in the above quote. She is an inspiration to me and hope her death is not in vain!
After watching the news today about the life and death of aid worker, Kayla Mueller, I realized how much influence she had on this cruel world. I looked at many pictures of her and saw a smiling face filled with love and hope. She lived her life to help others end suffering. She appeared to really want to help people and would probably have been the kind of person who showed hope and optimism for people like myself fighting cancer. In my view, she is truly a person that Albert Einstein describes in the above quote. She is an inspiration to me and hope her death is not in vain!
Wednesday, February 11, 2015
Valentine Cookies
"If you can't feed a hundred people, then just feed one." Mother Teresa
As promised yesterday, here is an easy and fun sweet chocolate heart cookie recipe. I made them and then delivered them to the cancer center at our local hospital. I found that sharing with other cancer patients, made my day a little brighter and hopefully cheered up others.
Ingredients:
2 1/4 cups all purpose flour
2 sticks of unsalted butter
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon unsweetened cocoa powder
1 cup firmly packed brown sugar
1 whole large egg
medium heart shaped cookie cutter
Directions:
1. Add 2 sticks of unsalted butter to an electric mixer.
2. Cream the butter until fluffy, then add brown sugar.
3. Cream mixture, add one egg and vanilla.
4. In a seperate bowl, mix salt, baking powder, flour, cinnamon and cocoa powder.
Whisk together until combined. Add this dry mixture in two batches to the
buttter/sugar mixture until mixed well.
5. Knead dough lightly into a ball and place into a large ziplock bag. Flatten into a
disk shape and placenin refrig. for two hours.
6. Remove dough and let sit on a lightly floured surface for 5-10 minutes to soften.
Roll out dough on floured surface until it is about 1/4 inch.
7. Cut cookies with heart shaped cookie cutter and place n a piece of parchment
paper or baking mat.
8. Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees.
9. Bake for 12 minutes, make sure not to burn edges. Take cookies out and let them
cool completely.
10. Decorate with white icing, leaving edges exposed. You can also use powdered
sugar.
11. Place cookies in a nice container and deliever to a charity of your choice.
As promised yesterday, here is an easy and fun sweet chocolate heart cookie recipe. I made them and then delivered them to the cancer center at our local hospital. I found that sharing with other cancer patients, made my day a little brighter and hopefully cheered up others.
Ingredients:
2 1/4 cups all purpose flour
2 sticks of unsalted butter
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon unsweetened cocoa powder
1 cup firmly packed brown sugar
1 whole large egg
medium heart shaped cookie cutter
Directions:
1. Add 2 sticks of unsalted butter to an electric mixer.
2. Cream the butter until fluffy, then add brown sugar.
3. Cream mixture, add one egg and vanilla.
4. In a seperate bowl, mix salt, baking powder, flour, cinnamon and cocoa powder.
Whisk together until combined. Add this dry mixture in two batches to the
buttter/sugar mixture until mixed well.
5. Knead dough lightly into a ball and place into a large ziplock bag. Flatten into a
disk shape and placenin refrig. for two hours.
6. Remove dough and let sit on a lightly floured surface for 5-10 minutes to soften.
Roll out dough on floured surface until it is about 1/4 inch.
7. Cut cookies with heart shaped cookie cutter and place n a piece of parchment
paper or baking mat.
8. Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees.
9. Bake for 12 minutes, make sure not to burn edges. Take cookies out and let them
cool completely.
10. Decorate with white icing, leaving edges exposed. You can also use powdered
sugar.
11. Place cookies in a nice container and deliever to a charity of your choice.
Tuesday, February 10, 2015
"All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt."
Charles M. Schultz
We are dealing with another 8 inches of snow up here in New England and another major snow storm, is expected on Thursday. With all this cold, snowy weather it makes me think of the upcoming Valentine's weekend and time to turn my thoughts to chocolate.
Dark chocolate (70% cocoa beans) may not only be the tastiest food, it may also have many physical and mental health advantages. Like most good things, though, everything in moderation because it still has a lot of sugar and fat. While I sit here in a snowy New England, I am going to enjoy the best health reasons to enjoy chocolate.
1. It has disease fighting antioxidants, maybe more than most other foods.
2. According to research by a Canadian food advisor, "chocolate releases calming endorphins that reduce anxiety. Plus, it's very high in magnesium, a stress reducer."
3. A study at the University of Illinois found that daily consumption of dark chocolate, may lower cholesterol and improve blood pressure.
4. It helps prevent heart disease. A recent study showed that people who consume 70% dark cocoa beans on a regular basis, had improved blood flow. The dark chocolate is linked to a chemical in the body, nitric oxide, that increases arterial dilation.
Although many of these health claims are not without fault, in this cold snowy weather, I can see no serious harm in trying a little hot cocoa to ease the harsh winter blues. Tomorrow I will explore some great recipes that include rich healthy chocolate. Until then stay warm.
Charles M. Schultz
We are dealing with another 8 inches of snow up here in New England and another major snow storm, is expected on Thursday. With all this cold, snowy weather it makes me think of the upcoming Valentine's weekend and time to turn my thoughts to chocolate.
Dark chocolate (70% cocoa beans) may not only be the tastiest food, it may also have many physical and mental health advantages. Like most good things, though, everything in moderation because it still has a lot of sugar and fat. While I sit here in a snowy New England, I am going to enjoy the best health reasons to enjoy chocolate.
1. It has disease fighting antioxidants, maybe more than most other foods.
2. According to research by a Canadian food advisor, "chocolate releases calming endorphins that reduce anxiety. Plus, it's very high in magnesium, a stress reducer."
3. A study at the University of Illinois found that daily consumption of dark chocolate, may lower cholesterol and improve blood pressure.
4. It helps prevent heart disease. A recent study showed that people who consume 70% dark cocoa beans on a regular basis, had improved blood flow. The dark chocolate is linked to a chemical in the body, nitric oxide, that increases arterial dilation.
Although many of these health claims are not without fault, in this cold snowy weather, I can see no serious harm in trying a little hot cocoa to ease the harsh winter blues. Tomorrow I will explore some great recipes that include rich healthy chocolate. Until then stay warm.
Thursday, February 5, 2015
Control Issues
"I like to control everything, and you can not control everything. You have to at some point say, 'I let go and I'm going to let the cards fall where they fall... This is hard."
Naomi Campbell, Super-Model
After spending two days in doctor's offices, I realized how much I obsess and try to control my health. I know I can only control so much of the path my cancer will take. There is only so much good eating, thinking, relaxing or preventing I can do, but at times it's hard to let go and let the professionals do their jobs. I'm sure many of you can relate to any kind of over obsessing and how it can consume you.
I started to think of what was causing this obsession about whether I was getting the best care. What I concluded was that it's easier to obsess about my treatment plan than obsessing over whether I was dying. I reminded myself what several doctors have told me, we are all in the process of dying if we don't work at living.
Today I am choicing to let go and live. I'm going to enjoy the warmth of the sun, the beauty of the snow and the comfort of listening to my heartbeat.
Naomi Campbell, Super-Model
After spending two days in doctor's offices, I realized how much I obsess and try to control my health. I know I can only control so much of the path my cancer will take. There is only so much good eating, thinking, relaxing or preventing I can do, but at times it's hard to let go and let the professionals do their jobs. I'm sure many of you can relate to any kind of over obsessing and how it can consume you.
I started to think of what was causing this obsession about whether I was getting the best care. What I concluded was that it's easier to obsess about my treatment plan than obsessing over whether I was dying. I reminded myself what several doctors have told me, we are all in the process of dying if we don't work at living.
Today I am choicing to let go and live. I'm going to enjoy the warmth of the sun, the beauty of the snow and the comfort of listening to my heartbeat.
Improving Blog
"Think Big, Have Fun, Be Kind. Show Love!" My new mantra for this blog
I spent all day yesterday in the doctors office having blood work and scans done, to allow my doctor to evaluate the current cancer treatment I am receiving. Today, I will speak to the doctor about the results. This is usually a mentally draining time for me. I decided to bring my tablet along with me to use my waiting time productively. I am working on improving this blog to make it more viewer friendly. I plan on adding pictures and side bars to the site. I appreciate any comments or suggestions you have, so blog away with comments. I am signing off for now so I can review other blogs to get new ideas.
I spent all day yesterday in the doctors office having blood work and scans done, to allow my doctor to evaluate the current cancer treatment I am receiving. Today, I will speak to the doctor about the results. This is usually a mentally draining time for me. I decided to bring my tablet along with me to use my waiting time productively. I am working on improving this blog to make it more viewer friendly. I plan on adding pictures and side bars to the site. I appreciate any comments or suggestions you have, so blog away with comments. I am signing off for now so I can review other blogs to get new ideas.
Tuesday, February 3, 2015
Snacking
"Sometimes, it's just easier to say yes to that extra snack or dessert, because frankly, it is exhausting to keep saying no. It's exhausting to plead with our kids to eat just one more bite of vegetables." Michelle Obama
Believe me I know first hand how hard it is to give up snacking between meals or choosing healthy snacks over unhealthy ones. My doctor is always reminding me that healthy eating can only aid in my cancer treatment. I think most people carry around this struggle even if they are not fighting a chronic disease.
Lately, I''m getting in the habit of freezing grapes and blueberries, I then use them as a snack instead of candy or cookies. When I have doctor appointments or other appointments that I know I will be sitting around waiting, I pack snacks like a peeled mandarin oranges, nuts, carrots and celery sticks, so I am not tempted to snack at the vending machines. I found that a mid-day healthy snack also helps me not to experience a late-afternoon slump. Today I decided to give my refrigerator a makeover to help with my effort to snack better. First I am placing fruits and veggies inside clear containers, along side yogurt ans salad fixings on a shelf at eye level. The objection is to open the refrigerator door and have these items grab my attention. Next I throw away any takeout containers to help discourage me from eating more take-out.
These things are small things to help me. I know I have to work at it daily. To that I say Good Luck!
Believe me I know first hand how hard it is to give up snacking between meals or choosing healthy snacks over unhealthy ones. My doctor is always reminding me that healthy eating can only aid in my cancer treatment. I think most people carry around this struggle even if they are not fighting a chronic disease.
Lately, I''m getting in the habit of freezing grapes and blueberries, I then use them as a snack instead of candy or cookies. When I have doctor appointments or other appointments that I know I will be sitting around waiting, I pack snacks like a peeled mandarin oranges, nuts, carrots and celery sticks, so I am not tempted to snack at the vending machines. I found that a mid-day healthy snack also helps me not to experience a late-afternoon slump. Today I decided to give my refrigerator a makeover to help with my effort to snack better. First I am placing fruits and veggies inside clear containers, along side yogurt ans salad fixings on a shelf at eye level. The objection is to open the refrigerator door and have these items grab my attention. Next I throw away any takeout containers to help discourage me from eating more take-out.
These things are small things to help me. I know I have to work at it daily. To that I say Good Luck!
Monday, February 2, 2015
Healthy Eating
"Life expectancy would grow by leaps and bounds if green vegetable smelled as good as bacon." Doug Larson
When I learned of my cancer, I was referred to a registered dietitian. She was very helpful in getting me to begin eating healthier. I decided today to blog about some of the fruits and vegetables she shared with me. This information is useful for everyone whether you have cancer or not.
The first fruit on my healthy eating list are apricots. They are very rich in betacrptoxanthin, and have been shown in studies to prevent osteoarthritis and inflammatory forms of arthritis. They also have high levels of magnesium, which strengthen bones and may ease pain. During the winter months when we in the north can not get fresh apricots, I use dried fruit. During the summer months when apricots are available, I stuff them with goat cheese and almonds (a good nut for breast cancer prevention).
Next on my list are tomatoes. They are loaded with healthy antioxidants , vitamin C, lycopene ( may help to lower cardiovascular risks) and quercetin (may help with inflammatory components that damage joints). When juicy tomatoes are not in season, I buy plum, grape or cherry varieties, which are very tastier. One way I enjoy tomatoes is by chopping them with basil and garlic and serve on toasted bread. A flavorful addition to a big bowl of soup in the winter.
Walking through the grocery store today, I noticed chunks of watermelon, the third item on my list. Watermelon is a great source of bone-healthy vitamin A, potassium and magnesium. It is available in most grocery stores year-round. I like to add chunks of it to ice tea with mint leaves.
Green vegetables, squash of any variety, and carrots round out the other items on my list. Most of them are a good source of vitamins A, B, C, calcium, magnesium and potassium. All of these may help strengthen bones and ease pain.
In closing, I also recommend the book Unjunk Your Diet, by Desiree Nielsen (Skyhorse Publishing). It is a helpful guide to improving general good health by eating the right foods. Happy Healthy Eating!
When I learned of my cancer, I was referred to a registered dietitian. She was very helpful in getting me to begin eating healthier. I decided today to blog about some of the fruits and vegetables she shared with me. This information is useful for everyone whether you have cancer or not.
The first fruit on my healthy eating list are apricots. They are very rich in betacrptoxanthin, and have been shown in studies to prevent osteoarthritis and inflammatory forms of arthritis. They also have high levels of magnesium, which strengthen bones and may ease pain. During the winter months when we in the north can not get fresh apricots, I use dried fruit. During the summer months when apricots are available, I stuff them with goat cheese and almonds (a good nut for breast cancer prevention).
Next on my list are tomatoes. They are loaded with healthy antioxidants , vitamin C, lycopene ( may help to lower cardiovascular risks) and quercetin (may help with inflammatory components that damage joints). When juicy tomatoes are not in season, I buy plum, grape or cherry varieties, which are very tastier. One way I enjoy tomatoes is by chopping them with basil and garlic and serve on toasted bread. A flavorful addition to a big bowl of soup in the winter.
Walking through the grocery store today, I noticed chunks of watermelon, the third item on my list. Watermelon is a great source of bone-healthy vitamin A, potassium and magnesium. It is available in most grocery stores year-round. I like to add chunks of it to ice tea with mint leaves.
Green vegetables, squash of any variety, and carrots round out the other items on my list. Most of them are a good source of vitamins A, B, C, calcium, magnesium and potassium. All of these may help strengthen bones and ease pain.
In closing, I also recommend the book Unjunk Your Diet, by Desiree Nielsen (Skyhorse Publishing). It is a helpful guide to improving general good health by eating the right foods. Happy Healthy Eating!
Friday, January 30, 2015
Listening
"When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen."
Ernest Hemingway
I try to truly listen to anyone who comes to me with their problems or concerns. Currently, I attribute this the fact that when I get anxious about my cancer, I want others to just listen. I don't want advice, I just want to be heard.
I feel that in this busy world, truly listening is one of the best ways to let someone know I care about them. It is also shows others how important they are to me.
It really is a challenge to mindfully listen to another person, even though it seems like a simple, effortless task.
When I listen to others, I try to step away from all internal and external distractions, and concentrate on the other person's voice. Unfortunately, in the era of texting and e-mails, where you can scroll down to relevant information, listening requires your attention to get to the main point.
The next time someone you care about speaks, I challenge all of you to not only hear the words, but also process their meaning. Don't be afraid of the silences, those pauses give both of you a chance to organize your thoughts and feelings into a caring response.
Ernest Hemingway
I try to truly listen to anyone who comes to me with their problems or concerns. Currently, I attribute this the fact that when I get anxious about my cancer, I want others to just listen. I don't want advice, I just want to be heard.
I feel that in this busy world, truly listening is one of the best ways to let someone know I care about them. It is also shows others how important they are to me.
It really is a challenge to mindfully listen to another person, even though it seems like a simple, effortless task.
When I listen to others, I try to step away from all internal and external distractions, and concentrate on the other person's voice. Unfortunately, in the era of texting and e-mails, where you can scroll down to relevant information, listening requires your attention to get to the main point.
The next time someone you care about speaks, I challenge all of you to not only hear the words, but also process their meaning. Don't be afraid of the silences, those pauses give both of you a chance to organize your thoughts and feelings into a caring response.
Thursday, January 29, 2015
Gratitude
"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity."
Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go
As part of my New Year's resolution, I am trying to make gratitude a part of my daily life. I am trying not to be so distracted with my health problems that I'm not appreciative of what I do have. I'm also trying to stop complaining about what I don't have. Instead I am establishing an "all-in" gratitude ritual.
This blog is part of that gratitude ritual to reflex on how many blessings I have, like my three sister, my two healthy children, my loving husband and multi-levels of friends.
I've also started to journal daily, which has begun to produce many benefits. I feel happier when I get the opportunity to thank others who have done minor or major services for me. Just this simple act of being grateful has made me feel less depressed about my cancer because I know people care. I've also noticed that when you are grateful to others they smile and get a change to play it forward with others. I also feel healthier and want to take better care of myself. Did you know that studies have shown that just saying hello to strangers improves kidney function (results of a study conducted by Robert Emmons, a professor of pschology at the University of California).
I hope you enjoyed this blog and that you begin to be grateful for the meaning and importance of people and events in your lives
Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go
As part of my New Year's resolution, I am trying to make gratitude a part of my daily life. I am trying not to be so distracted with my health problems that I'm not appreciative of what I do have. I'm also trying to stop complaining about what I don't have. Instead I am establishing an "all-in" gratitude ritual.
This blog is part of that gratitude ritual to reflex on how many blessings I have, like my three sister, my two healthy children, my loving husband and multi-levels of friends.
I've also started to journal daily, which has begun to produce many benefits. I feel happier when I get the opportunity to thank others who have done minor or major services for me. Just this simple act of being grateful has made me feel less depressed about my cancer because I know people care. I've also noticed that when you are grateful to others they smile and get a change to play it forward with others. I also feel healthier and want to take better care of myself. Did you know that studies have shown that just saying hello to strangers improves kidney function (results of a study conducted by Robert Emmons, a professor of pschology at the University of California).
I hope you enjoyed this blog and that you begin to be grateful for the meaning and importance of people and events in your lives
Wednesday, January 28, 2015
Physical Activities
"Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live." John Rohn
Prior to my breast cancer diagnosis I was very physically active. I would walk a minimum of one and a half miles a day and attend several physical training classes a few times a week. Since my diagnosis I have trouble walking around the grocery store or just doing general housekeeping chores. Part of this is a result of my breast cancer metastasizing into my bones. Two and a half years ago the cancer ate through my femur bone in my right upper leg. I was rushed into surgery and had my femur bone removed. They replaced the bone with a metal rod and a lot of nuts and bolts. The result of this injury left my right leg two inches shorter than my left leg.
After months and months of rehabilitation and having a lift placed in my shoe (no more open back shoes), I have been able to walk short distances.
Currently, I am attempting to try to return to more physical activities. My biggest obstacle is I am still uncoordinated in my movements coupled with my clumsiness, makes for an uphill battle.
While I was in the hospital receiving physical therapy, my therapist suggested a program called "Livestrong". The program is free and designed to allow low impact excerize, with individual programs for each client. It is a wonderful program and and I would recommend it to any cancer patient. If you want more information on the program, contact your local YMCA to determine availablity in your area.
This program has taught me to believe that general physical wellness, can be obtained , no matter what state you are in phsically. The low impact classes that I take at the YMCA also improved my emotional and spiritual wellness. (Please refer to your physician before starting any exercize program.)
In closing, here's to better health, hope and courage to finding your new "normal" in physical activites.
Prior to my breast cancer diagnosis I was very physically active. I would walk a minimum of one and a half miles a day and attend several physical training classes a few times a week. Since my diagnosis I have trouble walking around the grocery store or just doing general housekeeping chores. Part of this is a result of my breast cancer metastasizing into my bones. Two and a half years ago the cancer ate through my femur bone in my right upper leg. I was rushed into surgery and had my femur bone removed. They replaced the bone with a metal rod and a lot of nuts and bolts. The result of this injury left my right leg two inches shorter than my left leg.
After months and months of rehabilitation and having a lift placed in my shoe (no more open back shoes), I have been able to walk short distances.
Currently, I am attempting to try to return to more physical activities. My biggest obstacle is I am still uncoordinated in my movements coupled with my clumsiness, makes for an uphill battle.
While I was in the hospital receiving physical therapy, my therapist suggested a program called "Livestrong". The program is free and designed to allow low impact excerize, with individual programs for each client. It is a wonderful program and and I would recommend it to any cancer patient. If you want more information on the program, contact your local YMCA to determine availablity in your area.
This program has taught me to believe that general physical wellness, can be obtained , no matter what state you are in phsically. The low impact classes that I take at the YMCA also improved my emotional and spiritual wellness. (Please refer to your physician before starting any exercize program.)
In closing, here's to better health, hope and courage to finding your new "normal" in physical activites.
Tuesday, January 27, 2015
"Spring passes and one remembers one's innocence.
Summer passes and one remembers one's exuberance.
Autumn passes and one remembers once reverence.
Winter passes and one remembers one's perseverance." Yoko Ono
After the thirty plus inches of snow here in New England, I can personally see how you need to stay steadfast and persevere. Only 51 days till Spring!
Speaking of spring, I am beginning to bring out my bulbs that I have been forcing inside and thought I would blog about how to grow buibs inside.
Growing bulbs indoors lets you enjoy the color and fragrance of spring when it's months way. The key to sucess with indoor forced bulbs is to plan ahead! Many people do not know how to force bulbs indoor or that there are two types of bulbs for inside growing. The first is the ones you need to chill and the others are those you don't chill. The non-chilling ones are the easiest to force. The non-chill bulbs are native to warm climates, so don't need a chilling period to force inside. The bulbs that are in this category are:
Amaryllis (bulbs 6-8 weeks after planting), Paperwhites (blooms 3-5 weeks after planting). Both can be brought at a local gardening center or on-line at a site like www.gurney.com.
Bulbs requiring chilling are:
Tulips ( chill 14-20 weeks to bloom) , large flowering Crocus ( chill 15 weeks to bloom), Hyacinthis (chill 11-14 weeks to bloom).
Chilling spring bulbs are stimulated by a biochemical response inside the bulb that "turns on" the embroyonic flower. Plant the bulbs in pots with soil and keep in an area of 35-45 degrees ( cold frame, unheated basement or garage) for the entire cooling period. Keep soil moist, but not wet for the entire chilling period. To flower in January plant in September, for February blooms plant in mid-October and for March blooms plant in early November. As I said earlier, forcing bulbs requires advance planning!
It maybe too late to force bulbs today, but you can mark your fall calander for next year. As part of my cancer care, this advanced planning gives me incentive to care for myself by making my doctor appointments, eating well and keeping my spirits high. I want to be here next year to see my bulbs bloom! Please do the same for yourself and loved ones.
Summer passes and one remembers one's exuberance.
Autumn passes and one remembers once reverence.
Winter passes and one remembers one's perseverance." Yoko Ono
After the thirty plus inches of snow here in New England, I can personally see how you need to stay steadfast and persevere. Only 51 days till Spring!
Speaking of spring, I am beginning to bring out my bulbs that I have been forcing inside and thought I would blog about how to grow buibs inside.
Growing bulbs indoors lets you enjoy the color and fragrance of spring when it's months way. The key to sucess with indoor forced bulbs is to plan ahead! Many people do not know how to force bulbs indoor or that there are two types of bulbs for inside growing. The first is the ones you need to chill and the others are those you don't chill. The non-chilling ones are the easiest to force. The non-chill bulbs are native to warm climates, so don't need a chilling period to force inside. The bulbs that are in this category are:
Amaryllis (bulbs 6-8 weeks after planting), Paperwhites (blooms 3-5 weeks after planting). Both can be brought at a local gardening center or on-line at a site like www.gurney.com.
Bulbs requiring chilling are:
Tulips ( chill 14-20 weeks to bloom) , large flowering Crocus ( chill 15 weeks to bloom), Hyacinthis (chill 11-14 weeks to bloom).
Chilling spring bulbs are stimulated by a biochemical response inside the bulb that "turns on" the embroyonic flower. Plant the bulbs in pots with soil and keep in an area of 35-45 degrees ( cold frame, unheated basement or garage) for the entire cooling period. Keep soil moist, but not wet for the entire chilling period. To flower in January plant in September, for February blooms plant in mid-October and for March blooms plant in early November. As I said earlier, forcing bulbs requires advance planning!
It maybe too late to force bulbs today, but you can mark your fall calander for next year. As part of my cancer care, this advanced planning gives me incentive to care for myself by making my doctor appointments, eating well and keeping my spirits high. I want to be here next year to see my bulbs bloom! Please do the same for yourself and loved ones.
It' the time of the season
"Don't keep allowing the same things to upset you. Life is to short to live that way. Every day is a GIFT." Joel Olseen
Happy tuesday! Here in New England we are experiencing the Blizzard of 2015, which gives me a good time to reflect.
One benefit I discovered from having cancer is every day is a gift and every moment is truly a gift if you allow it to be. I've also learned that when I couldn't "do", God was just pleased with me "being". This reminds me to stay grateful and focused on what is truly important. I believe this is even more important to remind myself when you are dealing with a devil like cancer,
When I was first diagnoised with cancer in December, 2011, I remember crying for 10 minutes and then it was over. I told myself to focus, pull myself together and begin to fight. So I did, not giving up on myself.
I'm currently doing better and some of the time I can forget I have stage four cancer, although in the back of my mind, I can't help wondering what and where my cancer is doing in my body. This is when I take time out of my day to just meditate and relax.
Let it snow, let snow, let it snow!
Happy tuesday! Here in New England we are experiencing the Blizzard of 2015, which gives me a good time to reflect.
One benefit I discovered from having cancer is every day is a gift and every moment is truly a gift if you allow it to be. I've also learned that when I couldn't "do", God was just pleased with me "being". This reminds me to stay grateful and focused on what is truly important. I believe this is even more important to remind myself when you are dealing with a devil like cancer,
When I was first diagnoised with cancer in December, 2011, I remember crying for 10 minutes and then it was over. I told myself to focus, pull myself together and begin to fight. So I did, not giving up on myself.
I'm currently doing better and some of the time I can forget I have stage four cancer, although in the back of my mind, I can't help wondering what and where my cancer is doing in my body. This is when I take time out of my day to just meditate and relax.
Let it snow, let snow, let it snow!
Saturday, January 24, 2015
Lip spa treatment
"Learn to be alone and LIKE IT. There is nothing more freeing and empowering than learning to like your own company." Mandy Hale
Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow! Today is the first major snow storm in the New England area. A good day to stay home and give yourself a little TLC. Yesterday I launched this blog with intend to put a pretty face on cancer, which I presently am fighting. I decided to begin my journey in this blog by dealing with the parched and cracked, as old shoe leather, lips that resulted from my cancer meds and treatments. (The cold weather doesn't help either!) Our lips don't have oil glands to keep them soft and moist so moisturizing our lips is essential.
I am devoting myself to softer lips and commit to giving them tender living care year round. I am marking my calander weekly, with a big red kiss, to remind me to give myself a lip spa. I suggest you do the same!
I begin with a exfoliant treatment and finish with a conditioning/moisturizing treatment.
EXFOLIANTING TREATMENT
1 Tablespoon of brown sugar mixed with 1 Tablespoon of olive oil. Spread over lips, massage in circular motion for 45 seconds. Clean off with warm moist cloth. Repeat if necessary.
CONTITIONING/MOISTURIZING TREATMENT
1 teaspoon of coconut oil mixed with 1 teaspoon of honey . Add the liquid oil from a vitiman E capule that has been punctured. The vitiam E promotes cellular renewal. Apply to lips.
OTHER TIPS TO IMPROVE LIPS
* Mostures lips from the inside out by drinking 8- 8 oz glasses of water a day. While this won't prevent dryness, it will keep lips from getting worse.
* Use dark creamy lipstick with SPF-20.
* Run a humidifer in your bedroom while you sleep to prevent chapped lips.
* Eat food rich in vitamin B such as whole grains, nuts and green vegatables.
* Avoid licking lips. Saliva contains digestive enzymes that dry out lips.
Hope you enjoy this blog and lip treatment. DON'T FORGET TO FOLLOW US ON
prettyinpink057.blogspot.com Tuesday through Saturday.
Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow! Today is the first major snow storm in the New England area. A good day to stay home and give yourself a little TLC. Yesterday I launched this blog with intend to put a pretty face on cancer, which I presently am fighting. I decided to begin my journey in this blog by dealing with the parched and cracked, as old shoe leather, lips that resulted from my cancer meds and treatments. (The cold weather doesn't help either!) Our lips don't have oil glands to keep them soft and moist so moisturizing our lips is essential.
I am devoting myself to softer lips and commit to giving them tender living care year round. I am marking my calander weekly, with a big red kiss, to remind me to give myself a lip spa. I suggest you do the same!
I begin with a exfoliant treatment and finish with a conditioning/moisturizing treatment.
EXFOLIANTING TREATMENT
1 Tablespoon of brown sugar mixed with 1 Tablespoon of olive oil. Spread over lips, massage in circular motion for 45 seconds. Clean off with warm moist cloth. Repeat if necessary.
CONTITIONING/MOISTURIZING TREATMENT
1 teaspoon of coconut oil mixed with 1 teaspoon of honey . Add the liquid oil from a vitiman E capule that has been punctured. The vitiam E promotes cellular renewal. Apply to lips.
OTHER TIPS TO IMPROVE LIPS
* Mostures lips from the inside out by drinking 8- 8 oz glasses of water a day. While this won't prevent dryness, it will keep lips from getting worse.
* Use dark creamy lipstick with SPF-20.
* Run a humidifer in your bedroom while you sleep to prevent chapped lips.
* Eat food rich in vitamin B such as whole grains, nuts and green vegatables.
* Avoid licking lips. Saliva contains digestive enzymes that dry out lips.
Hope you enjoy this blog and lip treatment. DON'T FORGET TO FOLLOW US ON
prettyinpink057.blogspot.com Tuesday through Saturday.
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