Monday, March 30, 2015

Toxins

"A body full of toxins is like a freeway full of cars-- nothing is moving."
Kulreet Chaudhary, MD, neurologist at Scripps Memorial Hosiptal

Toxins have been proven through medical studies to change the material of normal cells.  These toxins can come in external factors such as cigarette smoke, exposure to other carcinogenic chemicals, exposure to ionizing radiation or internal factors such as abnormal hormonal activity or inherited genetic abnormalities that may cause cancer. Once cancer develops it can be furthered by the consumption of cancer promoters, including alcohol, tobacco, or a high fat diet. Unfortunately, this theory does not always apply because many people who smoke, drink alcohol, or eat high fat diets do not get cancer.  There have been studies also that show how to rid the body of the harmful toxins.
Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary indicates in his recent article in "Woman's World"  Journal, that teas such as dandelion can actually change the biochemistry in your body, helping eliminate toxins that can cause cancer or correct underlying problems that cause weight gain. It has been shown in his studies that dandelion, lemon and cranberry are all thought to boost liver function, which helps eliminate toxins in the body.
I have been using a tea recipe that has shown weight loss and elimination of toxins in the body.  I am sharing this recipe because I have seen positive results in my general well being.  As with any suggestion of improved health, it is always best to consult your doctor.
Tea Recipe:
Juice of 1/2 lemon
1/4 cup of unsweetened cranberry juice
3/4 dandelion tea bags
2 1/2 cups boiling water
Pour lemon and cranberry juice into a 24 oz. pitcher; add tea bags and water. Let steep 5 minutes.  Remove tea bags and enjoy hot, cold or at room temperature.  Makes about 3 cups.

Friday, March 27, 2015

A Tiny Step

"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop."  Confucius

As the weather is beginning to change, it is almost 45 degrees here in eastern New England, I decided it was time to stop hibernating and begin moving.  In one of my earlier blogs I mentioned that I used to walk several miles a day, but with the cancer in my bones it was hard enough to put one foot in from of the other.
Today I brought myself a pedometer to measure the amount of step I take a day.  It is recommended that the average adult should take between 9000-10,000 steps a day. With this in mind I decided to try to keep my stepping action somewhere in the middle.  Now this may sound like an easy task until I started.
One mile covers about 2000 steps.  This means that the health community expects an average adult to walk 4.5-5 miles a day, to maintain good health. Having gotten out of bed at 8:00 am, by noon time I had just about taken 900 steps.  I have a long way to go.  I plan on recording on my blog every day how many steps I can achieve in a day. I feel this will keep my accountable and hopefully motivated.  As Confucius's said, " It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop!"

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Pain and Suffering

"Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life.... I can choice to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have- life itself."  Walter Anderson, author

As I continue on the journey through cancer, I recognize daily what I want in life is pleasure and joy, and what I want to avoid is pain and suffering.  Unfortunately, that is not always possible because cancer has a mind of it's own.
Without even thinking about it, I plunge ahead each day, doing the things I hope and believe will bring me pleasure, make me happy and work to avoid suffering and pain.
I have found out from speaking with others facing the challenges of cancer, that each of us have a different idea about what brings us happiness or what brings us pain, Some have told me exercise helps, others feel it is in your diet, still others feel it is all in your attitude or religious beliefs.  Nonetheless, underlying all these activities is the same desire to seek pleasure and avoid pain.
What my doctors have told me is that regardless of the type of cancer or the stage at the time of diagnosis, the degree of mental, emotional, and spiritual pain is often the same.  With this comes confusion, feeling overwhelmed and deeply afraid.  I have been told this normal and it too will pass.
I want you to know that their are support groups that can help with this uncertainty.
I found that help from my local cancer center and wish the same for others dealing with cancer.

Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Self Awareness

"Sail beyond the horizon; fly higher then you ever thought possible; magnify your existence by helping others; be kind to people and animals of all shapes and sizes; be true to what you value most; shine your light on the world; and be the person you were born to be!" Blake Beathie

Self Awareness  and Growth was the topic of conversation that they talked about at a cancer seminar at my public library today.  The seminar was very informative with many tools and skills to help you become a more productive you.  The one thing I took from this seminar was, that any of these tasks to improve your existence, requires training to master every detail.
The speaker encouraged everyone in the audience to challenge themselves, to help others to alter the perception that everything was about them and their cancer.  This view was very inspiring for me because there are days when I spend alot of my time worrying about my health.  I feel by encouraging and helping others I can fulfill the duties that I was put on this earth for and be the person I was born to be!

Monday, March 23, 2015

Time

"I must govern the clock, not be governed by it."   Golda Meir

As Prime Minister Golda Meir reflects, I like all of us, can march in rhythm of our own drum and not let others dictate the rhythm of their drum.  Now I know this is harder said than done, but I am trying to achieve this.
There was a time, before cancer struck me, that the moments of time in my life made sense.  I know who I was, where I was going, why I was on the path, and when I could expect to get there.  Now that I have cancer a lot of these time journeys are fulled with uncertainties.
When I found out I had stage 4 breast cancer, I realized that I was exhausted from dragging my heavy suitcase of time. (Also known as the rat race.)  At that point my husband and I decided to retire from the rat race.  I finally told myself to slow down.  The problem was it so hard to go from running to walking.  I found out that I was racing through life as if I didn't have a moment of time to waste.
Now, after three years,  it's getting easier to slow down and smell the roses, as they say.  When I do get panicked about time, I remind myself "There is no time but now!"

Friday, March 20, 2015

Spring!

"The earth laughs in flowers."   Ralph Waldo Emerson

Happy Spring!!!  Spring is finally here, if only as a date on the calendar.  The problem is the calendar did not tell the snow of it's intention to declare the beginning of spring.
We only got 2 inches of new snow today, however, it is 2 inches too many if you ask me.  As I surveyed the property around the house I noticed the flowers are fighting to push their way through the remains of a hard winter.  I even did my best today to shovel around the flower beds where I had planted my fall bulbs.  I don't know if it helps but it made me feel better  that I was doing my very best to bring on spring.
It brought a smile to my face when I thought how silly I must look clearing the ground for the spring flowers.  After completing this small task, I returned to my warm home and admired my house  flowering plants that I brought weeks ago to remind me it's only a matter of time before I will be complaining about the summer heat.  For now I say bring it on!

Thursday, March 19, 2015

Endurance

"It is easier to find men who are willing to volunteer to die, than to find those who are willing to endure pain with patience."   Julius Caesar


One thing I have learned from suffering through cancer is that you can endure a lot of pain, if one has the believe the rewards are worth it.  Julius Caesar taught us that this has to be done only with patience.
I know a lot of families that have to endure pain and suffering, yet do not get the results they hope for.  My journey with cancer has been rewarding because I live with patience.  I have learned that those I love the most, usually have my back, but there are times when their needs come first.  It has nothing to do with me, it is where they are in their life.  They may not even understand the pain you are going through because they have their own pain.  I have learned to be patient and allow life to complete it's cycle.  I hope more people live and learn in this environment.
For anyone who understand this, I offer them hope that the volunteers become patient in their struggles and the struggles of others.

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Quitting

"Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever."  Lance Armstrong

Well, Punxsutawney Phil got it right this time on Groundhog Day. Winter is not ready to quit!  With a foot of snow still on the ground here in New England, the weather report for Friday is for 2"-3" of snow.
One thing that this winter has taught me, is to keep fighting even when I want to throw in the towel.  I remind myself of Lance Armstrong's quote when I complaining about the weather, my cancer or the fights life throws at me. "Quitting last forever."
I had to go to the doctor yesterday to get my three monthly shots that are helping me fight my stage four cancer.  My body has an amazing alarm clock built into it that tells me it is time for my shots, the pain from the cancer gradually gets worse.
As I said I get three shots, one for my bones, xgeva, and two to fight the growth of the cancer.  The one shot, xgeva, I get in my arm but the other two, flasodex, I get in my buttock.  Flasodex is a estrogen prohibitor to prevent the cancer from growing. Basically, my doctor explain it to me that the breast cancer I have grows on estrogen.
So far this treatment has been working well for me as can be seen with the reduction of my blood cancer numbers.  Although the shots in my buttock hurt when they are administrated, the alternative to the shots are not even worth talking about.  For now I will go on fighting and pray that God gives me more time on this earth! For that I remain grateful.

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Luck

"Luck is believing you're lucky."   Tennessee Williams

Happy Saint Patrick's Day!  Today, March 17th, is the day the Irish celebrate the death of the foremost patron saint of Ireland, Saint Patrick.  Having been raised a true Irish Catholic, this day is reserved for wearing of the green, eating cornbeef/ cabbage and the day during Lent when the restrictions of eating and drinking alcohol is lifted. This lifting of restrictions has resulted in the holiday's tradition, at times, of the over indulgence of alcohol consumption.
Growing up my father told us that on St. Patrick's Day, everyone was Irish or wished they were.  He took great pride in the Irish culture and the day of celebration.  There has been many concerns about excessive celebrating and in as late as 2007, Father Vincent Twomey of Ireland wrote, "It is a time to reclaim St. Patrick's Day as a church festival" and questioned the "need for mindless alcohol-fueled consumption."
As we celebrate this festive holiday, wear your green with pride, drink responsibly and enjoy the sunshine in the Irish eyes.  May the luck of the Irish be with you!
                      

Monday, March 16, 2015

Laughter

"I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it's the thing I like most, to laugh.  It cures a multitude of ills.  It's probably the most important thing in a person."
Audrey Hepburn

Today as I walked down the aisles of our local Wal-Mart, I heard the familiar sound of a child's laughter.  I peered around around a corner to experience the sight of a small child playing with a stuffed kitten in a basket that meows when the child touched it's paw.  The child smiled from ear to ear as the stuffed animal continued to amuse him.  The laughter was so contagious I started to laugh too.  It was more contagious than a cough, sniffle or sneeze.
At that  moment, I realized how innocent this moment was.  I just went along with the ride of the normal innocence of a child's laughter and this brought a smile to my
face.  The mother of the child glanced at me and I instantaneously felt a bonding of human spirits.
Laughter is a birthright, it lightens your burden and it inspired hope for most.  It was just the recipe I needed to raise my spirits and bring me back into balance.  The best part was , it was free and fun therapy that was priceless and easy to use.
I wish everyone a good belly laugh to reduce the stress of your daily chores.



Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Spring is on the way!

"Keep your face always towards the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you."
Walt Whitman

Finally, a day above 50 degrees!!!  Today my husband and I went down to the banks of the Quinebaug River and to our great surprise the ducks had come out of their coves where they hide for the winter. They were scouring around to find food.  The sight of the bread we brought made the ducks so excited that they were quacking louder than I've ever heard.  The happiness that the ducks were displaying made us laugh and smile.  These are the little moments when I can stop worrying about my cancer and see that all creatures on earth have their own struggle to survive.
When we finished throwing the crumbs of bread, I promised the ducks that we would be back tomorrow with more food.  It was almost like they looked at us and understood.

Monday, March 9, 2015

Day Light Savings Time

"Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealth, and wise."
Ben Franklin

Although this old proverb does hold a lot of credence, I find the use of Day Light Savings Time (DST) does nothing to ensure the promoting of these historical words. First, there is the nuisance factor of resetting your clocks twice a year.  Second, given that I have cancer, I don't think that DST or getting up early cures cancer.  Thirdly, I like the quiet time one can enjoy in darkness.  As a matter of fact, I like it when I wake-up at 3:00 in the AM to go to the bathroom and all the world seems quite and still.  I don't enjoy it when it is still dark in the morning and my phone starts ringing an hour earlier than I'm prepared for. Nor when it's still light out and I want to relax in the stillness of the night.
Most people who read this may say "There are advantages to DST", like more daylight for recreation, reducing heating and lighting demands, or less automobile accidents but it still takes my a few good weeks to the time adjustment.  Having cancer has made me feel more protective of my valuable time.
Well I guess my only choice is to stop complaining and get with the program or move to Arizona or Hawaii, where they don' t observe DST.   For now I think I will stay right here in New England and enjoy the beauty of the snow for an hour longer and realize that spring has not sprung with our moving the clocks ahead an hour!

Sunday, March 8, 2015

Family

"She took comfort in the familiarity of his smell, knowing that if she had lost all her possessions and her home, at least she would have her family."
Sage Steadman, Upon Destiny's Song

Today I had a very interesting conversation with my husband about the importance of family.  My husband is an only child and has no living blood members of his immediate relatives.  His mother and father, both deceased, were immigrants who came from Hungry and Germany, respectfully, without any know relatives that they had contact or knowledge of.  I on the other hand have two grown children, three sisters, brother-in-laws, nieces, nephews and several cousins that I keep in contact with consistently. I felt a sense of lose for my present husband ( a second marriage), that he felt alone in this world.  We have only been married for three and half years but tried to convince him that my family was his family.  This idea was a foreign thought to him, although, he has a great relationship with me and my family.
As our conversation continued about what a family is or is not, I realized that the definition of family was not universal.  I take my family idea from a community of fragments which reside inside of me.  It is composed of bits and pieces from my parents, siblings, children and friends.  My spouses has told me he is a vision of what a individual in a group is.  When I think about it, as I just said, family is not universal and should be individual.
I am going to remain alert and attentive to making a healthy relationship with my family that includes their reality as well as mine.

Friday, March 6, 2015

"Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live."
John Rohn, Author, Fitness, Body Care

When I woke up this morning, I thought what can I do to for myself to celebrate the coming of Daylight Savings Time.  I decided to call and make an appointment to have my nails manicured.  This is a very simple pleasure that I don't always afford myself but I enjoy.  The big decision is always what color to paint them and design or no design.  I decided after a small time of pondering to pick out a bright pink.
I love getting my nails done. It's like a new haircut or a terrific skin care treatment.  Manicured nails make me feel neat and pulled together. The salon I go to gave the following 3 tips on how to get on the path to beautiful nails.
1.  Don't cut cuticles to close to he nail bed. "The cuticle is the natural barrier to fungus and bacteria, once you breach that barrier, the protection is lost." says Dana Stern, MD, a dermatologist at Mount Sinai Medical Center in NYC
2.  Moisturize the nail bed and cuticle.  Nails that are prone to breakage usually need moisture, according to Dr. Stern.
3.  Take biotin supplements ( a member of the vitamin B family) they help increase nail thickness and prevent breakage.
I'm glad I'm going to get my nails manicured today. It puts a little sunshine in my day. Try It!  After all thus cold winter weather, we all need a little TLC!

Thursday, March 5, 2015

"Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out."
John Wooden

Have you ever had something unexpected happen to you and then as a result of that happening, something else happens?  Well yesterday I made a decision to go to the dentist because I had a tooth ache that was hurting and then improving, only to return days later.  My husband didn't think it was necessary to go to the dentist, because we don't have dental insurance, but I didn't agree because I was afraid it may have something to do with my cancer. It was a freeing attitude to made my decision based on what I felt was best for me.
I made the call to the dentist and there was a cancellation, so they could see me in a half an hour.  I thought the cancellation was a sign that I made the right choice.  On our way to the dentist, I told my husband to stop and get a coffee and newspaper so he had something to read in the waiting room. We stopped at a small store we have never been in.  My husband graped a paper and coffee, then at the register, asked for a three dollar scratch off.  This was unusual because he didn't usually buy scratch off.
In the waiting room, my husband gave me the scratch off ticket.  I began the task of getting out a coin and began scratching.  At first I didn't believe it but my husband confirmed that we had won a hundred dollars!
To think that we won't have won the money if I hadn't made the choice to go to the dentist.  Proving what I truly believe; Either your choices are good for you or it brings up what you need in order to create good for you.  I thinks it's all about good karma.
The dentist appointment was the right choice because I needed an antibiotic and the advice to contact my cancer doctor about my sensitive teeth which could have resulted from my the cancer I have in my bones.